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Please note …

The petition created by Matthew Harris, Pay Carers an allowance equivalent to a full-time job at the National Living Wage, closed on 17th June 2019.

You can see the results of that petition here:

https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/234864

I will be removing my posts associated with the petition, now it has come to an end.

Blogging break

Although I have scheduled blog posts in the pipeline, I am taking a blogging break.

At the moment, I have held back meaning comments would take a while to get published. But because I need to take myself further away, means your comments are not going to get aired until when I return.

I plan to return to blogging on 17th July.

I won’t be doing any prompts during this time, or plan to post anything extra, then what still is currently scheduled.

See you all on the 17th July and I will air any comments I find on my blog when back, along with responding when I can.

Thank you.

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IMPORTANT INFORMATION for my followers of this blog!

This is an important update for followers of My Wellbeing and Learning Journey.

After receiving an email of what it would cost next year to renew my blog on the personal plan I have it on, (unless I put a renewal in soon,) I have found the pricing will go up.
The price is a huge cost increase for a personal blog that I write just for pleasure and not for profit and so to renew the personal plan and keep my domain https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.com is just not worth it.

This blog is not a business blog and never will be, so it’s too much to pay for something I don’t earn money from. To go up to a price as it’s turned out to be is a huge increase for me, that I cannot afford, so I have cancelled my subscription. If I knew it would increase to that much, I would never have upgraded my blog in the first place and instead kept it on the free domain.

What does this mean for this blog?

Nothing straight away as of yet. You will continue to read my blog ad free. But next year, from 23rd July 2019, my blog domain https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.com expires. This means my domain will go back to the free version I had when I first started blogging, https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.wordpress.com

How will it affect you?

Any followers that followed this blog from 23rd June 2018 and onwards will be affected. I gather it will affect both  email followers and those who follow via WordPress reader. Those who have followed my blog when it was originally https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.wordpress.com will not be affected.

Please bookmark https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.wordpress.com on your computer for future reference, or whichever device you like to view my blog from, so that you can re-follow me back later, when the domain goes back to the free domain in July.

I plan to make my free domain link primary domain, in the New Year. (Way before it expires.) This will happen on 10th January 2019. So when you visit my blog, you will find it https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.wordpress.com and not https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.com

So if you followed my blog from 23rd June 2018 and want to keep following my blog after 23rd June 2019, then do make sure you re-visit and sign back up to emails, if it turns out you don’t receive updates when it has gone back to my free domain and if you are viewing my blog through WordPress reader, you can add the free domain link now to your reader, as this domain has been still available while I was using the paid version.

Related post:

My email to WordPress, after …

 

 

What always brings tears to your eyes?

Lots of things can bring tears to my eyes and the stress and some unexpected events I have blogged about, have brought tears to my eyes.

But away from life, the one thing that will always bring tears to my eyes, is when it comes to animals; whether they are in the wild, or domestic.

Animal cruelty, is always distressing and triggering for me and will bring tears to my eyes. I can’t bear animal cruelty.

Had I not witnessed animal cruelty at such a young age, by my dad, could I have reacted different?
I guess in some way I would have reacted differently, because had I not witnessed animal cruelty at a young age, it wouldn’t have been triggering. But no doubt I would have still find it very distressing and upsetting, because of my huge love for animals. So it would bring tears to my eyes.

No one deserves an animal, if they are going to be cruel to it.

I’m sure I am not alone in feelings that the people who are cruel to their pets, or other animals, ought to have the equivalent done back to them, for hurting such a defenceless animal.

What brings tears to your eyes?

Some unhelpful comments I’ve received

Just some unhelpful comments I can remember over my lifetime that I have heard, or still hear.

“Chin up”

Oh how I hate this one. I have said about hearing this, in this post, How has stigma around mental health affected you?
Depending on my mood at the time this is said, I can either be sighing and rolling my eyes inside myself, or sarcastically thinking how I could give you chin up if my fist went upwards to your chin, then you would certainly be chin up.
Surprisingly, I have never said where to stick that one, or respond in any way! But I have noticed instead, I distance myself off, like I am not there.

“Snap out of it”

Only heard this once and a very long time ago, that the memory of this one is vague to the situation.

“There is always someone off worser than you”

Oh, don’t you think I don’t know that?

But all the same, does that mean my feelings don’t count? Are my feelings worth nothing?

For years I kept my mouth shut and, did not say how I felt and it did not get me anywhere. I was silent and broken at times and I felt I did not belong in the world, because my feelings were not validated.
When I could cope more, then counseling begun, because there you are not judged.

“Oh… I have felt sad sometimes.”

OMG and eyes rolling when I got this one. My eyes were literally rolling as this was said once when I first talked about my depression and taking meds. At first, I thought she understood, but when a comment came out afterwards she said that, it clearly wasn’t the case. I even asked a question to be sure. I can’t remember my exact words now, but I clearly put this person in their place and corrected the different between sad and depression. This was the same person who was ignorant about my deafness, only a few years before.

“But that’s in the past.”

Seeing my dog get beaten, doesn’t make it go away, like it never happened, or the fear of my dad that I remember.

Being raped doesn’t make how it affects me go away!

“Think positive.”

So you think I don’t? I am doing well trying to be positive and some days are really hard to be positive, that I am tired being positive. I think I can have a day off, or two from being positive.

What comments have you received, that you found not helpful?

 

Related post:

Do you want to read up on further unhelpful comments. I found this page below, which will take you to The Mighty.

https://themighty.com/2018/08/what-not-to-say-support-mental-illness/

My go-to, in times of escape.

It got difficult because of feeling that mentally and physically drained for so long this year, that when I found the new morning job wasn’t for me and the circumstances around it, that I have revealed in earlier posts, that it pushed me to my limit energy-wise.

I have cried and still have my moments, while I feel like this. I have regardless how I have been, still been able to crack jokes and have a laugh. But behind it all, it has still been pained. Hopefully, now I have finished my morning cleaning job, I should hopefully get my energy back and start to feel more better.

But while I have been as I have been, my go-to, in times of escape, have been the following:

  • Walking, especially in nature.
  • Watching Michael Flatley’s, Lord of the Dance DVD.
  • Listening to Michael Flatley’s Lord of the Dance.
  • Sleeping

Blog post re-share: 7 Telltale Signs Of A Desperate Blogger — Renard’s World

I am re-sharing this blog post which I am so happy Renard has written. There are many things mentioned in this post that is also a bug bear to me, because I find it happens in my blog too.
I have mentioned in the past some of these things on my blog, that I will not allow and I will be raising something again in a chit-chat post later this month. But until then, I share this post, because I could not say it any better than it has already been said in this blog post. Do pop on over and have a read.

Seven telltale signs of a desperate blogger are highlighted.

via 7 Telltale Signs Of A Desperate Blogger — Renard’s World

Fibbing Friday – 14th June

It’s Fibbing Friday time and again it’s me and my mum doing our Friday Fibbing. We have been laughing doing these. Each answering our questions separately and then coming together, to share our answers.
Mum is enjoying doing these, so I think you will see our Fibbing Friday as a regular thing here, while it continues.
These prompt suggestions are by The Haunted Wordsmith and her original post for today’s prompts can be found here.

1. Who was the first person to sail around the world?

My answer: I don’t know.
Mum’s answer: Tom, Dick, or Harry.

2. Why did the Egyptians build the pyramids?

My answer: Because they wanted something grand.
Mum’s answer: To hide in.

3.What is Ursa Major? 

My answer: A medal.
Mum’s answer: Robin Hoods Home.

4. Lady and the Tramp wasn’t about two dogs… what was it about?

My answer: Snow White and one of the dwarves.
Mum’s answer: The in-between bit.

5. What does “Law and Order” mean?

My answer: Rules to break.
Mum’s answer: When two drunks get under the law.

6. What does Hell look like?

My answer: Well… I have two versions; one was my last workplace, in the last 2 years being there. 😙
The other version is red and hot.

Mum’s answer: Two grizzly bears.

7. What do cars do when you’re at work?

My answer: Depending on how much they like their owners, I can imagine them playing one of either two songs; “Only the lonely,” or”I want to break free.”
Mum’s answer: Talk to each other.

8. What is the best song ever written?

My answer: Holy crap.
Mum’s answer: Between the lines.

9. What are gnomes looking for in your garden?

My answer: Looking for fish, while secretly spying on the squirrel.
Mum’s answer: To see if you’ve pulled up the weeds.

10. What is in fruitcake?

My answer: Any fruit you like.
Mum’s answer: Fruit cocktail and spice.

11. What are the Seven Deadly Sins?

My answer: Alcohol, chocolate, puddings, sugar, more chocolate, cake and more cake.
Mum’s answer: A week of jumps and groans.

12. Why were Cinderella’s slippers made of glass?

My answer: It was a dodgy tracking device.
Mum’s answer: Because they ran out of leather.

13. What is wind?

My answer: Me farting.
Mum’s answer: Something you part with when you can’t get up with air.

14. Why do cars have bike racks without bikes?

My answer: Because they want to look fit.
Mum’s answer: Because they want to run up the tracks themselves.

15. What is the secret meaning behind the Mickey Mouse Club?

My answer: It’s all the little mice in the woods, having a huddle.
Mum’s answer: Two mice traps full of tasty snacks.

I hope you enjoy this one, as you did last week. Look out for future posts of my mum joining in this, with me.

My own vitality wheel and wellness journal.

Image of my Vitality Wheel

My vitality wheel in the photo above, hangs on my light pegs, above where I sit in the living room.
I started creating this vitality wheel after reading an article on what it was about, when researching the book I came across, “The self-care revolution,” by Suzy Reading. I blogged about this book here, in this post.
When I started reading the book, I referred and, changed my vitality wheel accordingly, as I learnt more and gave more thought to mine.

Below, is my journal I’m using as my wellness journal.

The words on the front of my journal say:

BE HAPPY BE
BRIGHT
BE YOU

I think these words are appropriate for what I am using this journal for.

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The pages inside this journal are in pastel pink and blue. Pages are lined to start with, then there are plain pages.

Each of the pages has one of the three following quotes at the bottom of each page:

  • You are something magical
  • Every cloud has a silver lining
  • Your sparkle hasn’t gone unnoticed

This journal I started creating, before knowing and reading the book, “The self-care revolution.”

The book suggested to create a journal, as well as the vitality wheel. But you were not forced to, if you felt it was too much writing a journal. I chose not to create a journal, but the book has influenced slightly my journal, as I take something from it, with what I was doing already.

This is two of my pages from my journal, in the photo below. This is the same layout I use for each day.

One of my two pages from my journal

As you can see it is a nice simple layout, but I do have space should I wish to track anything else.

So at the moment, as my layout shows, I track my:

  • Food
  • Activity
  • What I did for me
  • Mood

At the front of my journal, I have a yearly mood chart.
It’s the same layout I used before, but with a very slight change in list of moods to before, as I wanted to put some of the moods to their own list, rather than combined.

My yearly mood chart for 2019

And that’s my journal for now until full and then the plan will be to have a ring binder journal in future with this in, as well as my planner. That way, it will be all in place. So I will look at buying an A5 leather filofax, that will combine this and my personal planner together.