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IMPORTANT INFORMATION for my followers of this blog!

This is an important update for followers of My Wellbeing and Learning Journey.

After receiving an email of what it would cost next year to renew my blog on the personal plan I have it on, (unless I put a renewal in soon,) I have found the pricing will go up.
The price is a huge cost increase for a personal blog that I write just for pleasure and not for profit and so to renew the personal plan and keep my domain https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.com is just not worth it.

This blog is not a business blog and never will be, so it’s too much to pay for something I don’t earn money from. To go up to a price as it’s turned out to be is a huge increase for me, that I cannot afford, so I have cancelled my subscription. If I knew it would increase to that much, I would never have upgraded my blog in the first place and instead kept it on the free domain.

What does this mean for this blog?

Nothing straight away as of yet. You will continue to read my blog ad free. But next year, from 23rd July 2019, my blog domain https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.com expires. This means my domain will go back to the free version I had when I first started blogging, https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.wordpress.com

How will it affect you?

Any followers that followed this blog from 23rd June 2018 and onwards will be affected. I gather it will affect both  email followers and those who follow via WordPress reader. Those who have followed my blog when it was originally https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.wordpress.com will not be affected.

Please bookmark https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.wordpress.com on your computer for future reference, or whichever device you like to view my blog from, so that you can re-follow me back later, when the domain goes back to the free domain in July.

I plan to make my free domain link primary domain, in the New Year. (Way before it expires.) This will happen on 10th January 2019. So when you visit my blog, you will find it https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.wordpress.com and not https://mywellbeingandlearningjourney.com

So if you followed my blog from 23rd June 2018 and want to keep following my blog after 23rd June 2019, then do make sure you re-visit and sign back up to emails, if it turns out you don’t receive updates when it has gone back to my free domain and if you are viewing my blog through WordPress reader, you can add the free domain link now to your reader, as this domain has been still available while I was using the paid version.

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The talk of fur babies

When my mum stopped over for the night over the Easter holidays, we were talking about one day when we would have a fur baby. This conversation was started by my mum in this ocassion and we have talked about fur babies before.

We would both like to have another cat, but it’s not going to happen now.
Mum is in no position to lift heavy bags of cat litter, let alone carrying a cat carrier.
I don’t want to carry cat litter either. Not even using a shopping trolley and my budget does not stretch to having groceries delivered to the home, where the cat litter could be added to that shopping list, as I once did some years ago.
I also don’t want to go about carrying a cat carrier no more either. I haven’t forgot how I struggled with the cat carrier in the final year of having Miley. And when Miley was ill, which meant several trips to the vets, which if it wasn’t for a friend supporting me in this, I would have struggled, because I wasn’t well. I don’t want to worry now about that area anyone.

So if there is room, I discussed possibly guinea pigs as a pet, which mum doesn’t mind. But mum wondered whether I would consider a hamster again. I certainly would consider a hamster again.

I said to mum which ever fur baby we have in the home, we would have as soon as we are settled in living together. I want us to settle first, before owning another pet. But it was nice to talk about it, as something for us both to look forward to.

Post update on letter sent to my local MP

As you know in post, I hope it’s not going to get more difficult this year, I had a bit of a rant in that one and as I said ranted in that post,
I also sent a letter to my local MP and got my rant off my chest with him. Details in that above post link, if you need a reminder of what I ranted to him about.
A person that works alongside him quickly got back to me, (case worker) introduced herself and said she’d been asked to take on my case by the MP. She said that a letter has been sent to Working Tax department and as soon as they have an update, she’d get back to me and let me know where I stand on that situation. I replied back with my thanks, adding I hope they get a better response and reply to her, then they have done to me, saying it’s not the first time I have written to them and never heard.
If there was anything else I needed help with, just to email back.
I left it to that, as although I had a rant on different topics, the letter started off about WTC and that is my main thing. I just wanted to give an insight into my struggles currently.

So did they hear anything back from the WTC people?

Yes, they did and the letter sent to them was forwarded to me. HMRC have written it off and I owe nothing. This was because of the delay and failing to ask for it back when they should have done and my difficult financial circumstances and becoming a carer. They also apologised for not contacting me to claim this and also for never replying to my letters when I queried. Because of the worry and distress their actions have caused me, they are sending me a payment into my bank account in the next 14 days, although this amount they said is not intended to put a value on the worry and distress it caused. This small amount I received, I wasn’t expecting anything of any amount from HMRC.

When I read their response, I was both relieved and very angry at the same time and it raised a couple of questions also. One being was why did the money go up to what I was expected to owe in the letter?  So I sent another email to my MP asking them to forward that email to HMRC. The same day from them doing this for me, which I thanked the MP and the case worker helping me with this, they received a phone call from HMRC who let them know they had forwarded it to the complaints department to be escalated. So as soon as my MP and the case worker hear from them with a response, they will let me know.

HMRC may have written it off but because of that letter it added further questions I was not going to let drop. It has proved the point of why I have always said I will never apply for Universal Credit and also why I will never apply for WTC again.

I am also very angry that it took an MP to get my answer and that HMRC no matter what department has NEVER acknowledged any of my letters, including when I was dealing with my mum’s personal details and informing them in two letters, one being when she went in hospital and another when she was out back home, because if her having DLA. Yet if it was the other way round, I be expected to jump and get onto it basically.

I also raised how I observed at the beginning of this letter where they thanked my MP for his email and said that HMRC never offer email to people, yet he emailed. So I highlighted how once again HMRC are failing. Businesses are expected to comply with the law and make reasonable adjustments. As in my case it’s reasonable adjustment to offer email to me because I am deaf. Businesses do it, but HMRC don’t because they say it’s a security thing, yet here the MP has been able to email them.

My email that now will be in the hands of HMRC will show once again just how angry I am and how I feel that people like us, (low-income) are hit hard, but if you are rich, you get away with it.

I also added that if HMRC was a paid service business, they would not have a business because of them never answering queries, or complaints. So why is HMRC allowed to get away with it further? Again, to me it highlights just how there is a tier here, we (low-income) are expected to jump to what HMRC want, but HMRC just ignore us.

So when I hear further what they have to say, I keep you updated. But how I felt today with all these emotions, has just shown to me how stressed and triggered I am. I also realise I have been harbouring more stress than I realised and right now still, since yesterday, I still feel very angry. Angry in a way I have not felt for a very long time and so I hope I do get rid of this with the tactics I use and not let it overwhelmed me further.

How has stigma around mental health affected you?

For me, the first thing that comes to mind is how stigma affected my mum. This affected me because of the awareness mainly from my childhood, but still parts as an adult.
My mum has paranoid schizophrenia and having the title schizophrenia is enough, because of the stigma I remember around it. The stigma may not be as bad now as in my childhood, but I believe it’s still there, like any mental illness.
I remember as a teenager that schizophrenia would get bad press in the newspapers. It gave those with this condition a bad name, making it look like they were all dangerous, or violent if you had this condition, when it isn’t true. This condition would always be mentioned in the bold part of the newspaper when someone with this condition killed someone. I remember seeing this making the front page at times. This was newspapers in that time trying to give a sensational story line that sold their papers, not realising just what damage you were causing. I remember feeling really angry how the newspapers did this.
Thankfully now, newspapers have to watch how they word things, but I feel the damage from those days is still there. Do you?

People with schizophrenia are not violent people, but they can be a danger to themselves. But there are some people who will be quiet by withdrawing into themselves, as in my mum’s case.

I don’t like the word schizophrenia. But when I came to not liking this word, I don’t know. I don’t know if I hated this word when understanding my mum’s condition at a young age, or if it was the bad press if the newspapers.

But as I say, I think there is still stigma around mental health and because of this, it’s not something I will bring mum’s mental health particular condition into a face-to-face conversation with someone and mum is wary to do the same.

As you know I suffer with depression and anxiety. Depression has been good but anxiety shown itself since last year, as I blogged about. The past month or two, anxiety has not been too bad.
I have experienced stigma with my own mental health, things like people saying “chin up,” is not exactly helpful. Also, when you start talking about how you feel to some people, you realise from their responses they don’t get it after all as you first thought and that I am expected to snap out of it. Snapping out of it is not easy as you think.

It’s bad enough when people have to deal with their own mental health day in and day out, but when you receive unhelpful comments, cruel remarks, or just plain ignorance, that can create as much damage as the illness itself.

We have come a long way since when I was a child, but there is still more to be done. The royals are doing good with their Heads Together campaign I think.

How has stigma around mental health affected you?

What cartoons/animations do you like to watch?

That little kid, or big kid in us needs to come out at times, so we can laugh more, be silly and have fun.
For me, I like to watch cartoons and I know I am not the only one that likes to do this. So come on and don’t be shy and leave in comments of this your favourite cartoons you like to watch.

For me, I have enjoyed watching Garfield, Monsters Inc and recently I watched Despicable Me 1 and 2. But I need to sit and watch more, more often.

Blog post re-share: Introversion, shyness and social anxiety – What’s the difference?

A favourite post of mine that helps for those that are not sure of the difference between introversion, shyness and social anxiety.
I know hands down I am an introvert, which I have blogged about in the past in how it affects me. But in the past people have mistaken it for shyness, when then at that time I wasn’t.

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Introversion, shyness, and social anxiety can sometimes get mixed up, but they’re quite different. In this post we’ll look at some of the similarities and differences.

Introversion is a personality trait, and appears in the Myers-Briggs personality typology.  The opposite is extroversion, and individuals may fall at different points along the continuum between the two.  I lean strongly in the introvert direction.  One of the key elements that differentiates introverts from extroverts is the kinds of situations that drain and replenish mental energy.

Shyness involves feelings of discomfort and awkwardness, typically when meeting new people.  It can be an enduring personality trait, or it can appear during certain phases of development.  It tends to appear in people with low self-esteem.  Shy people may develop social anxiety disorder, but not necessarily.

Social anxiety disorder is a form of mental illness that’s also known as social phobia.  It…

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I hope my mum thinks of her words…

I am looking forward to going home, but looking forward more to when I live with my daughter. – As said by my mum.

The above words, as said by mum when the people involved in her care asked her how she was feeling about going home, or similar question of that nature.

I hope my mum holds onto this, when ever she may have hard times, as it is some months to go before I can bid on a ground floor council flat, with me being tied into a private contract until October.

Until that day happens, where we live together, I hope my mum does reach out more at her difficult times she may have. Also, to have a night, or a weekend break at mine every so often, just to break things up a little for her.