I so want a fur baby I can hold

A chit-chat post has already aired just now. But I so needed to write this.

So I am over half way in this first month. As I have mentioned a few times here and there, My Vision Board and Gratitude Wall are keeping me focused. Especially the vision board half of this board.

But I so want a fur baby to hold.

When I know how long my long term goal is, which is not guaranteed to happen in my eyes, but something needs to happenn by then, not having a cat again, is really hard.

I am trying to divert my attention back to my vision board, when my heart aches for a fur baby to hold. I am trying to focus on these trips I have planned, written on there. Two of them being new places to visit and that long term goal of buying my own home. The motivation for that is still there and has been since I started this board. But the ache for that fur baby to hold is really aching and starting to hurt.

Yes, I have a hamster and he is fun to watch. If I am lucky, which these past couple of weeks I have been, he has come out to see me and take tibbits from my hand on call. But he is not one who wants to be touched, which I respect.

I look at properties to rent, wondering if I should move. But I am holding back, because by doing so it would defeat my long term goal, because moving costs money: the deposit fees, the moving costs and I would be starting all over again saving. So it defeats the purpose.

I spoke about the wanting and longing to cuddle a fur baby with my counsellor yesterday, as well as anxiety I have had since I last heard from social worker, as well as other things. I talked about the possibility when I don’t have my hamster, that I am thinking guinea pigs, while living where I am. I would have the room I would like to give them, at that point in time. We talked a little on that, as well as these trips I have planned in the meantime.

 

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Chit-chat January

So near beginning of the year, I slept in my new single bed after purchasing back in December. It’s a nice shiny chrome bed, with diamanets on the top of the curved headboard end of the bed. The bed frame is heavy. I’ve never had a bed frame before, that has felt weighty like this one.
I went down to a single bed from a small double, after nothing but thinking of doing this for sometime. I am sick of changing the double duvet cover too and the last 3 to 4 months, I noticed was sleeping just on one side of my small double bed.
My first nights sleep was the best ever for a long time. I knew I was ready for a new mattress when it came to my old bed. But it’s took sleeping in my new bed to realise how refreshed I was in my body; minus some aches and pains I remember having. So I needed it more than I realised.

Hamster update

So I last talked about my hamster, Daz, sharing a photo for the first time in Chit-chat September – Part 2.

Getting round to talking more about him, I have left it later than planned. But here I am mentioning him now. In this post, I share another photo of him, with a little bit of an update.

Daz on his wheel

In the time I have had Daz, his confidence has grown, but there is a limit to how far he accepts contact. He will accept food from my hand and he has known to eat that food, while still staying next to my hand. But he is not a hamster that wants to be held. So when cleaning the cage and needing to transfer him out of that cage, he is transferred by using a cardboard container still. Just encouraging him to step inside that container, then cover the end with my hand, until I have him in his little pet carrier, keeps his stress and upset to the bare minimum. He’s really good with this.

At times when in his cage, I will see him checking me out.
He also comes up to the bars of the cage, when I am up close.
I know he expects treats, but they are kept to only once, or twice a week at the most, so when he has his daily food, I offer a couple of those from his dish as a way to keep that contact. He knows when his dinner is due. At times he can be seen waiting. Sometimes I am a little teaser and make him wait a little bit more, just so I can see him for a bit. When I do that, you can see him smelling the air for his food and he will check out his bowl, just to see if it’s there. Then he comes back to the cage door, looking at me. Once he has his food, he’s gone to his bed with it and is out of sight.

He is a hamster who likes to keep mostly to himself. I am lucky if I see him and able to interact with him before I go to bed. But he is happy and that’s the main thing.

Counselling

Last November, my counselling started, as I mentioned in Chit-chat. My counselling I have fortnightly. I have had four sessions so far by, the time we were towards the end of the second week in January and my counsellor asked for an extension and I have two more sessions, through my EAP (Employee Assistance Programme.) After this, I will continue privately with her, while I still feel I need it. Through filling in the paper how I had felt for the last two weeks and comparing to before, I have come on a lot further for the better.

I changed my mobile phone tariff

Last December, I went on a new tarif that was cheaper than my previous, after watching how much less internet I use, for the last few months. It’s a small saving, but it’s better than nothing.

Lots of dvd’s

I have been watching lots of dvd’s as usual, which is my escape as you know through difficult times. I’m not going to list some of the dvd’s watched in this month’s post, but a neighbour below has been lending me lots of his too.
I’ve lost count, how many I have watched, which vary from action, comedy and some cartoons. Watching some disney type films has made a refreshing change.

Scammers

I have to say, thankfully, since this post; It seems to be the year of attempted scamming by text, I have not had anything else.

Community spirit

I talked about community spirit some months back with where I live in this block of flats. I say hello to most neighbours. Join forces with three/four of them when need to be, when we have trouble with the usual flat, or what ever matter away from that. Thankfully, it’s not common as before where I need to join in with my own complaints and send them to the Neighbourhood Warden.

I still have that closer connection with my same two neighbours as when I talked about them in community spirit. I have helped when it came to one neighbour to use my phone when they had no money, so he could phone his sister. I don’t mind doing this and as I remind these neighbours, it’s all in my phone contract, so there is nothing extra for me to pay and the reason I won’t accept money off them. I am just happy to help too.
But because they insist on showing thanks, as I won’t accept money, I let them get something small like handsoap, or whatever they like to do, if they insist. But as long as they buy something very cheap and small, like handsoap, I will appreciate it. I don’t want them spending and being skint.

These two neighbours know the difficulties with my mum. But it wasn’t until last November I opened up how it affected me regarding feeling suicidal. Suicidal was the part I held back, until then.
I have offers of help from these two neighbours, to knock on their door when needed.
The neighbour who I let use my phone, has lent me a load of dvd’s over the last few months since, with knowing this is one of my means of escape. His wife when knowing how I was, also said knock on our door anytime.
For a certain scenario regarding my mum, should it happen and there is no Plan A, the neighbour below me has given me a Plan B.
Unfortunately though, I had to put a boundary in place with one of my neighbours. The one who is an alcoholic, as I have mentioned in an earlier post. So I won’t go into detail here again repeating then basically say this boundary protects me from anything further of it. I have grown up with it and I had a past friend who I felt was putting my job on the line through her alcohol issues and witnessing her getting too pissed. With other issues growing up and last years shit, I have had enough, which HAS lasted me a lifetime and I am having no more shit of that kind.

Booked my holidays off work

For day trips I plan to do a lot more of this year, I have put my holiday requests in at both jobs ready for those that fall on a working week. So all I need to do, is book the trips, once I know I have my holidays at work accepted.

Got my paint in

I got my white paint in ready for when I decorate.
My living room has already been done, as this post airs and I have rearranged my furniture after, to a new layout.
By changing the layout, it gave more floor space for my lounge bit a dining room bit. I wanted to create a bit more floorspace especially where my lounge bit is, so that when I move my coffee table out of the way, I will have floor space for my Tai Chi. So now time to get those Tai Chi dvd’s back on.

I have put away my living room curtains and put back up the curtains that were up when I first viewed my flat. I have no plans of changing these curtains at any point in the future. They will stay up, ready for when I move down the line.
As the curtains are ringlets, which personally I hate because my curtains, although not thick, they were heavy, were awkward to get off, let alone back on, with not much room between rod and ceiling. Curtains that came with flat, are lighter. Thankfully I like them.
I am a pencil pleat person, when it comes to curtains.

I only painted the walls and ceiling in the living room. I did not gloss.
I shall next paint my bedroom at some point, then paint my hallway, all in the same way.
The hallway is small, so painting the ceiling and walls should only take an hour, to an hour and a half at the most.

 

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How not to piss off a cleaner

  • Do not touch the cleaning equipment (unless you work for the same company)
  • Keep my cupboard tidy (My time is to clean the actual place. Not after you.)
  • Do not take any cleaning equipment from the cupboard
  • Don’t break/damage my equipment (I look after it.)
  • Do not leave the cleaning equipment dirty (again don’t touch it)
  • Do make sure any keys if applicable, are put back in their rightful place. (I would like to be able to gain access, to do my job.)
  • Don’t assume whatever has gone wrong or gone missing, it’s the cleaners fault, without getting proof first.
  • Don’t accuse a cleaner of stealing. Again, without evidence to back it up.
  • Don’t look down at a cleaner (The place would probably not be clean, if it wasn’t for us.)

As a hardworking cleaner, I have experienced all this at some point in my career, or another and it really pisses me off. It’s disrespectful.

 

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Review: Garnier Ultimate Blends Smoothing Hair Food Coconut and Macadamia

I felt I needed to give my hair a deep treat type of treatment, to put moisture back into my hair and I have not used a hair mask for my hair since my 20’s. Unfortunately, I can’t remember the hair mask I used then, but I remember it being very good.

The hair mask I treated myself to this time, was the Garnier Ultimate Blends Smoothing Hair Food Coconut and Macadamia, for £5.50, from my local supermarket. This one is for frizzy and unruly hair.

It’s a 3-in-1 hair mask. You can use it as:

  1. A conditioner
  2. A mask
  3. A leave in

I used this as a mask and using it this way, it says on the package to leave in for 3 minutes. But I left it for 5 minutes. You use it in place of your usual conditioner.
It was easy to apply. Felt nice and smelt nice.
Once left in my hair for my preferred time, I rinsed my hair well.
I then used my usual heat protection spray, before blow drying my hair and, I left my hair down that day.
I did not use my Creightons Frizz No More on this ocassion, as I wanted to see how good this was for my hair. I could smell the fragrance of it still in my hair. I was even surprised that I still could smell a hint of it in my hair the day after.
Whenever I use this again, I shall use this as a hair mask and use it once a week, or once a fortnight. So this 390ml tub will last me a nice while and so I feel it was worth the money. Especially as my hair felt and looked great. So I totally recommend it.

On the tub it says vegan formula. But it doesn’t have the vegan trademark, like some companies would have to go that one step further to highlight their vegan friendly products.

The review is my own personal opinion and I have not been asked to review this product.

 

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Blog post re-share: Always look on the Bright Side — Peacock Poetry

A blog post re-share as a reminder for myself and for anyone else.

I have talked about hope in past posts. I always had hope somewhere in me, regardless what life had thrown. Last year was a tough year and I practically had nearly lost all hope. But that last bit of hope I had in me is building itself back up and I hold onto that hope again.

When my Dad was really ill, my lovely Auntie Glen, ever the optimist reassured us “where there is life, there is hope”. Hope is such an an anchor in this life and can be a source of huge strength when everything around us appears to be crumbling. Hope is a choice that we can make […]

via Always look on the Bright Side — Peacock Poetry

Blog post re-share : 2020 is a Dangerous Year — This, That, and The Other

Spreading this awareness further, after Fandango gave us bloggers awareness as to why you should really write the full year, when signing and dating anything.

Never use “20” as a substitute for, or an abbreviation of, “2020.” I learned this yesterday as I was signing a bunch of legal documents having to do with the purchase of my new home. My wife and I were sitting across the table from a notary public who had to witness each of us […]

via 2020 is a Dangerous Year — This, That, and The Other

My answers to Fibbing Friday – 17th January

((It’s Fibbing Friday)) 😁

For how to play and for today’s Fibbing Friday prompt, do visit and if you are playing, tag the original poster here.

Here are my answers.

1.What’s the difference between a hair and a whisker? You could have lost your hair, by a whisker.
2. How many spots were there in 101 Dalmations? Did they really count those dots?
3. What is the Flying Dog? When it’s chasing a Frisbee.
4. Why do we say ‘sick as a dog?’ I have heard ‘sick as a parrot,’ so it must be down to their choice of pet, when they came up with this.
5. What is meant by ‘going to the dogs’? You’re in trouble.
6. Who or what is ‘Goofy?’ Related to ‘Woofy.’
7. Where is the Dog Star? With all the other stars.
8. Where will you find puppies on a roll? Andrex.
9. What are hush puppies? Sshh. There’re sleeping.
10. What is the hair of the dog? Oh… So that’s why I was ‘sick as a dog.’

My feelings – Part 5

Since last post, My feelings – Part 4. I have felt :

  • Anger (But not as to the level I last experienced in my 20’s, that I had up to this month, from December.)
  • Anxiety
  • Tension

The tension I noticed was related to my anger.

The anxiety was brought on by a particular conversation via email, from my mum’s social worker.

I have had a couple of down days, but they have not been bad and an odd tired day. But My Vision Board and Gratitude Wall has helped me to keep going and stay focused.

 

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Let’s all take the steps for cleaner air

I came across an advertisement in the Metro paper yesterday. This advertisement was by the British Heart Foundation for cleaner air. As the advertisement mentioned, I searched on the web “BHF toxic air” and I came to different stories mentioning the same thing that BHF have researched.

The link at the end of this post will take you to the British Heart website for this particular article regarding polluted air and, from there, we can contact our local MP to encourage them raise it and get our law updated and protect our heart and circulatory health.

When it comes to air quality and protecting our trees, these are two areas that the Government need to show more care on.

https://www.bhf.org.uk/informationsupport/risk-factors/air-pollution/take-action-on-toxic-air-pollution

My Vision Board and Gratitude Wall

I still use my organiser as I shared in this post, Organiser and journal combined. But for 2020, I have created a Vision Board and Gratitude Wall, by buying a large whiteboard and getting things on there. Half the board is my Vision Board and the other half my Gratitude Wall.

My whiteboard which has my vision board and Gratitude on it

This will hang on my bedroom door, so I will see it morning and night, as well as any other time I am in my room. I have also added either a quote, or affirmation on my board since taking a photo of this.

The Vision Board has long term and short term goals.
The short term being my day trips I would like to go on that are near, or far, so I have something to look forward to this year.
The long term which I am basing on over the course of the next 2 to 3 years, is saving as much as I can. At the end of the 2 or 3 years, I want to see if I have saved the amount I would like to save to possibly help towards buying a house. Realistically though, it may be 3 years I more likely do it in. So if that’s the case, then another year extra I will aim for. But if I don’t manage to do this, or I choose not to continue down this route by that time, then I will look at moving privately in a 2 bed house.
Until then, I look at the houses online for sale and any that interest me, I walk to that street literally to view from the outside, so I see if my impressions change and also see if the area itself I would be happy to live in.
I have also looked at what is going for rent as well and done the same.
But if I am lucky to get a council flat in this time, that I bid on, then I will obviously take it.
The Gratitude Wall I expect to fill up, as the year progresses. I have already added further since I took a photo of this.

I hope by creating this board, that it helps to keep me motivated each day, feel a little hope and serve as a reminder of some things I plan to do, that I will be looking forward to, when things get difficult.

I hope to do this each year.

Do you use a vision board, or a gratitude board like this, or something similar?

Do you have any goals for this year?

 

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