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Hi Everyone,
I want to create a directory for my subscribers to connect with eachother. I usually don’t allow self-promotion on my site, but this is different. If you would like to share your blog, please leave a brief description about what readers might find if they visit your site. Hopefully this will create some positive synergy for our blogging community. Don’t forget to reblog this post so we can get more people involved!

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Just some of my favourite blogs I like to read

This list, in no particular, is some of the blogs I like to read. My list of blogs I read is a long one and so if yours is not on here, then please don’t take offence. It doesn’t mean I don’t like it, I am just keeping my list short.

Quote challenge – Day 3

I have been challenged by Mark recently, at Coloring Outside the Lines. The challenge is a ‘3 day quote challenge.’ Today being the last day of the challenge, which I have enjoyed.

Thank you Mark, for nominating me this challenge.

Rules for the challenge:

Post one of your favourite quotes, (different quote on each day) on three consecutive days. The quote can be from your favourite book, author, or your own.
Nominate three bloggers to challenge them.
Thank the blogger, who nominated you.

My chosen quote for day 3:

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over,
it became a butterfly…” – Unknown.

This is a quote quite close to my heart, because not long after I came across this quote via Facebook, I also received a sterling silver butterfly pendant with those words too.

Now my choices for nominees. This is optional but can be fun project, if you’d like to join in.

Broken heart

I am not broken-hearted now, as the title of this post says, but at the time I broke up, I was. Now, my heart is taken still, by the man I once loved. This guy, after over 6 years together, although I broken up with him, did not mean it was easy. For nearly the last three years of that relationship, I waited for the day we would move in together. He promised me he would move in with me, in a particular month of the year. It did not happen. He promised he would next year. Next year came and he failed to keep that promise. That year, it seemed like I was repeating the previous year as the same conversation flowed. It was like watching myself. He promised again that next year it would happen. But this time, I wasn’t going to wait. For the first time in our 6 year relationship, I did not believe him. He destroyed all the trust I had of him.

The 6 years I had been with him, during all that time, it felt our relationship was part-time. If I was unwell, I would tell him, or anything else. I would share my life with him, on the days we did not see each other. But when he wasn’t well, he never shared that.

Although I split up with him, which during that time we had a year break to think things through, he asked would I get back after that year and unlike him, I wasn’t going to promise something like that. All I could promise was that in our year break, I would not get back any sooner. In the end, I decided after our year break, I wasn’t getting back with him.

I still love him, but not as in love to get back, as he created doubts in our relationship for not being honest about the moving in part and not having answers to other questions I had, from what else he did. Looking back, as much as he said he loved me, did he really in the end?

As well as the love I still have for him of a different kind, he took my heart and all I feel is disappointment towards him. We were going to remain friends, something he said first he’d like to do, but once again, what he said and did were different.

After I split up with him, I went on to have bad depression. I wasn’t an alcoholic, but I wasn’t treating alcohol nicely. When I was able to treat it nicely, I found I would feel low afterwards, so in the end, I chose to stop drinking altogether. I have not drunk for nearly 2 years now.

I am not interested in getting with anyone else as I am happy to be single and just be me. I am enjoying do more now, than I have ever done and I want to keep that up. With the new volunteering work in mental health I am trying out, I can see after today, that I could be even more busy. This volunteer work is very early days for me, but at the moment, it still feels right. 🙂

Quote challenge – Day 2

I have been challenged by Mark recently, at Coloring Outside the Lines. The challenge is a ‘3 day quote challenge.’

Thank you Mark, for nominating me this challenge.

Rules for the challenge:

Post one of your favourite quotes, (different quote on each day) on three consecutive days. The quote can be from your favourite book, author, or your own.
Nominate three bloggers to challenge them.
Thank the blogger, who nominated you.

My chosen quote for day 2:

“Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go,
just remember how far you have come.
Remember everything you have faced,
all the battles you have won
and all the fears you have over come.” – Unknown

Doubts can creep in and when they do self-esteem can drop. These words are a reminder to myself of how far I have come, after my struggles. I am still here and I have dreams to pursue. I remind myself to enjoy now.

The dreams may take a while and in the meantime I could face future battles. But if I do, I can get through them.

Now my choices for nominees. This is optional but can be fun project, if you’d like to join in.

 

Quote challenge – Day 1

I am not new to blogging, but this blog I currently write is quite new, with me only writing it since February.

I have been challenged by Mark recently, at Coloring Outside the Lines. The challenge is a ‘3 day quote challenge’ and I know it will be a challenge for me, but a fun challenge all the same.

Thank you Mark, for nominating me this challenge.

Rules for the challenge:

Post one of your favourite quotes, (different quote on each day) on three consecutive days. The quote can be from your favourite book, author, or your own.
Nominate three bloggers to challenge them.
Thank the blogger, who nominated you.

My chosen quote for day 1:

“Everything changes, and what was perfect for you once, may not be anymore… to keep changing and growing, you keep going within and listening for that which is right for you in the here and now.” – Louise Hay

My friend Sarah gave me this quote in a comment on my post called, ‘Priorities.’  This post I talked about how my priorities were changing and something that I owned, I decided to sell, as my view about that item had changed. So this was a good quote given to me from Sarah, to remind me that something I once had that seemed perfect then, may not be for me now.

Now my choices for nominees. This is optional but can be fun project, if you’d like to join in.

Misconceptions About Antidepressants 

A post I thought I’d share from blogger, Megan. Megan clears up some misconceptions about antidepressants, which I think is a great post to read. Some of the things I use to hear myself when I first was on them.

Sail Through My Thoughts


I was scared to take antidepressants because of all of the negative things I have heard. Antidepressants won’t work for everyone, but you shouldn’t be scared to try them. Recovery is a trial and error process, and all options should be considered. Here is a list of common misconceptions about antidepressants:

1. Antidepressants cause a false sense of happiness: This is not accurate. Antidepressants cause serotonin levels to rise. Serotonin is the chemical responsible for happiness, but it does not directly cause happiness. Antidepressants make it possible to feel happy, but they won’t cause you to feel happy for no reason.

2. Antidepressants cause you to act robotic: This isn’t true in every case. In fact, pretending not to have emotions is a common defense mechanism, and that might be coming into play. Also, the recovery from depression is not a straight uphill slope. Recovery will fluctuate and that will…

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Letter to my anxiety

Dear Anxiety

When you are at your worst, you fight with my self-esteem and I really hate you for that. But when you are at your best, I think one day you may just disappear and that would be the end of you.

I realise now, as much as I would like you to go, you will always be lurking around somewhere, creeping up when I at least expect it.
I have learnt I will have accept you, but I won’t let you control me, I shall be controlling you. Or at least I would like to think that, but I know that won’t be the case for me, instead I just have to go with the flow and try to do my best each day.
Doing my best, is my way of telling you I won’t be beaten. This letter is to let you know how I feel about you and also to let you know how much I hate you.

My last wish is if you would be considerate to my feelings and please let me go. I would appreciate it.

Yours sincerely

Liz

 

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Our first virtual coffee date

You will see some of my posts are tagged everydayinspirations. This is a free ‘Finding Everyday Inspiration’ course by WordPress.com. it’s a 20 day course, which once signed up, for the next 20 days you receive inspirational posts. I have done most of them, but there are a few I don’t want to do, or did not inspire me. But this one, I have never thought of doing and it was a lovely idea; creating a virtual coffee date post. So I although I will start todays virtual coffee date in this post, I thought, would you, my readers like this to happen say once every month, or two months?

Lets see how todays go and you tell me a bit about your day.

So, if we were having coffee today, I would tell you how much I enjoyed some different days with friends, leading up to my birthday. A week ago, on a Saturday, I had lunch at The Cottage, near where outdoor market used to be. (Now a car park.) I had a lovely early birthday lunch there, with a friend. Her treat.

If were having coffee today, I would also tell you how I had a lovely day with a friend at Bakewell, the day before my birthday. I treated myself to some natural products; handmade soap, moisturising balm and a bracelet, from a shop while there. We also called in at a garden shop in Matlock along the way for coffee. Then on the way back we visited Cromford for cake and tea. The weather was lovely.
On my birthday, I had the day with my Mum. We put a spread on for ourselves and had a relaxing day. We had sandwiches, crisps, biscuits, cheese and onion quiche and not forgetting the cake. 🙂

If were having coffee together, I’d tell you about my trip to York to see a friend, yesterday. But unfortunately, I have to put a complaint in with the coach company for the first time. What I was told and what happened were two different things.

  1. First issue was when got on the coach, I found mine and the seat next to me had food bits on it. I had to brush it off, before I could sit down. This is not like them.
  2. They did not park where I was originally told in an email. So my preparation to get myself where I needed to be went to waste. I had no clue where I was going and so I was getting anxiety. My friend had to text me my way there, once she knew where I was. What a team we were. I was hot and bothered when I arrived. I had the taxi back though, when it was time to go.
  3. Originally, on my ticket, it said we would depart from York at 5pm. The coach driver told us all to be back for 4.30pm.

I would have loved to have spent time with my friend that bit longer, as I originally expected.

I received a lovely gift from my friend too, which I will treasure. A bowl, that she made herself, with our favourite colours; blue and purple.

If we were having coffee today, I would also be telling you how I decided to put myself back on my preventer inhaler. I have been having an irritable cough at times with the high pollen count, but luckily no asthma attack. But I thought with what I was aware of, I’d get back on it, at a low dose and see how I go.
I think it has been over a year or more from last using my brown inhaler, after following a nurses advice, which then another nurse questioned recently why I had stop taking it. I was following advice, but one nurses advice seems to conflict the other. So what am I supposed to do?

Last year, I practically had no symptoms of hay fever and I know this is why I felt fine and did not need my blue inhaler. But this year, although I have not used it, I did expect myself using it because of the warning signs I felt. So putting myself back on the preventer, I hope stops all this, at a low dose.

If we were having coffee today, I would be telling you that as much as I would have liked a lazy day today, but I will have to do my usual studying in the afternoon.

Today, if we were having coffee together, I’d be telling you how I am handing in my volunteer badge at the hospice shop, tomorrow. I’m handing it in with me starting volunteering at Rosewood. I did not want to be stretching myself here and, there and burning myself out. I have done that once before and well aware not to do that again.

I hope you enjoyed our virtual coffee chat. Don’t forget to join in yourself at the end and tell me your day. It does not have to be long as mine and do let me know what you think about doing  a virtual coffee chat here. 🙂

It’s an achievement for me

Today was when I travelled to a new area I had not been to before and as you know from a previous post, I can get anxiety when travelling somewhere new. (The link to that post at the end of this one, if you have not already read it.)
Armed with my eTrex 20 and a paper map as a back up, I caught the bus needed to get to Rosewood Centre at Church Circle, New Ollerton. For most of my journey my anxiety was not as bad as I thought it would be, but getting nearer to the end of my journey it did increase. Luckily, I soon realised I was coming to my destination and that anxiety, although still there, I was beaming, feeling proud with myself that I got there. 🙂

Now for anyone who travels, you may wonder why it is a big deal for me and why worry. But this is my anxiety. This is what happens to me because my confidence did not grow as a child, as something, or someone would knock it away. So over my adult years my confidence has grown, but slowly, because it can be a battle. That battle has got easier over the last 2 years and after today, I feel great and things I have observed on my travels today, I want to go back to and take a look.

My first impressions

My first impressions of New Ollerton was that I absolutely loved the look of the place and when I arrived at Church Circle, my first observation was how quiet it seemed, to say it’s a big village.

Rosewood Involvement Centre

Rosewood Involvement Centre is behind the health centre and the bus stop is just outside the health centre. (Although I got off a stop before, as it still was a very short walk to it.)

The place was very welcoming and I got to know the person who is the Manager there, more about Rosewood Involvement Centre, having a chat about myself, so the manager knew more about me and then I was shown around the place. The place is small, but for a newbie like myself, it still seemed a bit of a maze to me, so I was losing my bearings a little. (I know this will get better.) I then met some of the volunteers there and stayed there through till the afternoon, chatting with them, then joining in at their meeting they were having in the afternoon.

I have a volunteer application form to fill in and bring back with me when I start attending next Friday as a volunteer. I will be starting off at the centre for so long, so I receive appropriate training, learning more about the place and basically settling in, before going out of the centre to do a role that interests me.

From discussion with the manager, there are plenty of opportunities that will be good on my CV and I from what I learnt today, I know I will get even more experience then I expected, which could be put to good use.

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