I thought I’d have a go with The Daily Post. Todays word is Sanctuary.

I last talked about my sanctuary when I used to be a deaf blogger. My sanctuary then was my garden when I lived at a previous address. I absolutely loved that garden and I miss it to this day, along with the neighbours. But I don’t miss the house itself.
The garden was a blank canvas when I first moved in. Just a lawn which was in a poor state. Any old followers of my deaf blog that are now following me here, will know the transformation that garden had, was turned into a lovely relaxing place to retreat in. The patio was the first to go down, then the lawn was all dug up and new turf laid and cut so that it was a large circle of grass. Around the grass was just a mixture of flowers, with a few shrubs.
When a new fence was put up to give more privacy, the garden had a slight landscaped feel as a step down was created to a gate at the bottom of my garden. I wonder if this garden has been tendered and loved, as I gave it.

Now where I live, I have mainly a concrete yard. There is a grass area, but only enough for two people to sit on. I have lived here for over two years and I love my house as it feels so cosy, especially in winter and the house is smaller to my previous, which is just the right size for me.

My sanctuary is inside my home, rather than my garden where I now live, as my garden does not feel private. I have thought about a new fence, but I am holding myself back from doing it because I rent privately and I would be adding value on the property by doing this. I don’t want to put money outside like I once did at my previous place, when sometime down the line I could be living somewhere else.

Having my home to myself and doing what I want inside, is my sanctuary. I like to relax with music, or the tv and sometimes a book or magazine, when I am not studying or on the internet. My cat, Miley is not far away from me, where ever I may be around the home.

My home is my sanctuary, to switch off and refresh for another day.

Places I have found outside my home that are relaxing and my next sanctuary are places like Kew Gardens and the gardens at Blenheim Palace. But these are too far away for me to visit when I like. Although I do have local parks which I enjoy to walk through now and again, it’s not the same.


Virtual coffee – July

Firstly, I’d like to say that it is nice to hear how you are enjoying these virtual coffee posts. Thank you for letting me know. I hope more of you enjoy joining in, as more the merrier they say. 🙂

Today, if we were having coffee, I would be having a latte and possibly a cake and we would be sitting in a lovely tea room. A latte to give me a little boost for any tiredness I may feel, although I am feeling great today. A few weeks back though, it was a different story. I don’t know what was wrong, but I was feeling tired for a few days and it did affect my mood at times where I felt distant, or low.
I also on one occasion had aching or painful joints which I would normally associate with stress, except I was fine. I did not feel stressed. Had I been doing too much someone asked. No, I don’t think so. I did feel baffled as to why I was feeling as I was. I also wondered if it was the weather that was affecting me. But again, it was just questions I was asking myself. To say I felt tired, I had slept well.

Could the affect had been from the dealings with my Working Tax Credit? I had to prove last month that I live on my own, by sending in lots of personal information about myself. I was not expecting this and it made me really angry that I had to prove something that I should not be proving. From googling I see it is a big issue. I understand that checks have to be made, but I think I should be taking all the necessary paperwork to my local tax office where they see the original documents and photocopy at their expense.
It is my first year since claiming this benefit and I could have claimed it long ago, but I have heard such bad press about it, I did not bother and I wonder whether to continue with this. From my first hand experience of this, I think being self-employed is much easier when it comes to the paperwork than claiming this benefit. I feel the support is better when you are self-employed to when you claim this benefit.
Although I am organised, I still found it stressful as I got the paperwork together. It made me wonder how the next person would feel who would not be.

Or is how I have been feeling, because of observations I am witnessing of family members struggling with seeing their loved one with dementia? I have sometimes felt helpless as I feel their pain.

Have you ever felt unexpectedly tired like this and wonder what could be the cause of it?

If we were having coffee right now, I’d be saying how a month or two back, I decided to delete my cats blog. I felt unmotivated with it and not inspired. So if you were a follower of Miley’s blog and wondered why it had been quiet, then this is why and I apologise if you are going to miss it.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d be talking about how I feel the weeks are going by so fast. Do you? I have lost track of my days sometimes and I have found now I have to organise things a little differently. Those that know me from my deaf blog I used to write, will know I used to use a whiteboard that had Monday to Sunday on it and I would plan it there visually for the week ahead, in conjunction with my diary. I have now had to stop using my whiteboard and instead I use a monthly planner. I still use my diary in addition to my monthly planner and so far, visually, this has worked better for me. But some of the magnets I used on my weekly board, I have put on my other whiteboard used for my weekly meal plans.

If we were having coffee right now, we’d be talking about the weather. How has the weather been for you?
I have not known sometimes what to wear as it goes from hot to cool and to rain. It has been a bit of a mix.

If we were having coffee, I would be saying that since my post dermatitis, it has quickly cleared up with my cream I was given. I am so glad as it was really painful this time.

If we were having coffee right now, I would be talking about how I went to Cleethorpes last month with the gang from Rosewood. It was the first time I had ever been to Cleethorpes. The weather was kind to us and it was extra busy down in Cleethorpes than it probably would have been, as it was Armed Forces Day. I did not know that this special event would be taking place and so it was more busy than I would have liked. I had a moment where I panicked, as I just wanted to get out of the crowd and I couldn’t. You could not cross the roads because it was barricaded and where I thought we could get, they stopped anymore of us going through and I was feeling like a sardine in a tin. I was squashed and there was pushing and shoving from behind me at times. I thought at one point I was going to collapse, or something, before I started to panic. I just could not see other than people and I wanted to get out of it. Me and a friend ended up going back the way we came, which was a long walk. But regardless I had this moment, it did not spoil the rest of my day.

This is all for todays coffee post, but next month I thought we would talk about summer. Hope you will join in with that. See you then. 🙂

Book review: ‘Nails, Nails, Nails!’ by Madeline Poole.

“Nails, Nails, Nails!” by Madeline Poole has 25 creative nail art designs to try. I received this as a Christmas present 3 years ago from a friend, which I was so thrilled about, as I only looked at the book myself, debating to buy now, or later.
I was spoilt for choice of the designs to try, after recently getting into nail art around that time. My Mum had also been looking at this book too and chosen her design for me to do next, on her nails.
As well as the nail art to choose from, with lovely clear photos and easy step by step guide on how to do them yourself. There is also at the beginning of the book the mention of some nail art tools you can get and what you could use them for, as well as types of polishes and nail anatomy.
If you like nail art, then you will like this book.