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Allergies: nickel

I know I am allergic to nickel, because if I wear jewellery that contains it, it feels irritated, but it also feels like it is burning. So I always avoid jewellery that contains it and make sure family and friends know too about what jewellery I can only wear.

I have not worn a necklace for a while because of the heat/sweat rash I was experiencing, which I talked about it here and also here. Now everything is calm, I started wearing one of my favourite necklaces which is on a sterling silver chain. But after a couple of days it was irritating me and it felt like it was burning me last night. (I have found another sterling silver necklace as irritated me in the past and I had to change it to a cord one, but I put this down to the chain links catching on my skin tags.)
I have had this sterling silver necklace for a while, a replacement for the chain I broke before, but in between wearing sterling silver or 9 carat gold jewellery, I have worn 9 carat gold jewellery for longer.
I know after researching, that my chain is sterling silver, but what shocked me is, I should not be wearing it because sterling silver jewellery has also other mixed metals, which can include nickel. I was also shocked that I should not wear anything less than 18 carat gold jewellery! I must say 9 carat gold jewellery has been no issue for me at the moment, as I always wear 9 carat gold earings!

As well as 18 carat gold jewellery the minimum I should wear, I have also learnt that platinum, or surgical steel are other options for alternative jewellery, as well as other alternative jewellery like cord, ribbon, leather etc…

I have already put my pendant onto a silk cord, until my replacement cord jewellery comes for this pendant. I think I may look into making my own cord jewellery if I want anymore, as well as looking at the platinum range. (But it is expensive I have read.)


I first revealed here, in this post of learning crochet, by showing you a photo near the end of that post of a small piece I was practising on. Since then, that piece currently looks like this.


I have really taken to crochet and enjoy it, so I know this new hobby will be something of a regular one. This crochet piece, I shall turn into a small purse, as I did not want to undo my first piece of practise work. I will put a wooden button on the front, when done. I have learnt where I went wrong at the end, which was missing a stitch due to me being tight with the stitches at first and the stitches I have learnt so far the following stitches: slip knot, chain stitch, which is your base for stitches, double crochet, half treble and treble stitch. What a brain exerciser. The only problem I am going to have, is remembering the name to the stitch I know how to do.

Next week, I plan to start a new project. I want to do a striped blanket for my bed in colours that will go with what I already have in my bedroom. I already have some wool, but I may need more later, which is not a problem, as she always has this in. I shall be taking in my iPad to show the blanket I want to create in my chosen colours, as this was the kind of stripes I was looking for my blanket to go on my bed. Where I found the blanket was at Whimsy and Cosy, in this blog post.


I look forward to doing this project and when I have completed it, I will share in another blog post next year.

I don’t know what to make of Christmas, this year.

You will find I shall be quiet talking about Christmas, except for this post and another post sending you just Christmas wishes.

Over the years, I have become less excited about it, with exception the odd times where I kinda look forward to it last-minute. This year is very different though. Although I have been recently making plans with family and friends, the spark is not just there. Today, I have even put up the Christmas tree where I volunteer and it has not sparked me to put my own up. So whether it will go up in the end, I just don’t know.

Christmas is different this year and I am probably not having the spark because of what is happening to a relative. We are all finding it difficult in our own ways as we see the deterioration, of our loved one. Originally she was not expected to be with us long, but when she was moved into the nursing home, she picked right back up. But that deterioration is back again. Each day is getting more predictable, with the odd good day.

I wasn’t going to talk about Christmas, or this, because with my post being a negative post for Christmas, I did not want to spoil Christmas for anyone else. But if I did not post this, then I feel my honesty I write on this blog usually, I feel I would be holding back if I did not air this post. I know I won’t be the only one who is not looking forward to Christmas anyway and you could be one of them reading this post right now.

Virtual Coffee – November


So welcome to my Virtual Coffee at my home, as mentioned on our last Virtual Coffee chat. How have you been since our last chat? While you tell me how you have been, come with me in my kitchen and tell me what you drink you would like. 😊 I have tea and coffee, which are both decaf. I also have blackcurrant tea, green tea, or green tea plus. If you have sugar, or sweetener in your hot drink, I have both, so let me know.


If a cold drink is more your thing, then I have dilute orange in my fridge.

You will see in my kitchen my weekly menu board, (whiteboard) for what I plan for my week.


This doesn’t include sweets I may have, or mid-morning and mid-afternoon snacks. (And sometimes the fruit I may have with my breakfast, for example.)
Doing this schedule means I stick to my main meals and have something healthy. This is particularly important, should I be in a mood where I can’t be bothered. I seem to stick with my menu if I write it on this board and it stops me just nit-picking. (Although I have had a few set backs when it comes to sweet things, as you know.)

Help yourself to the cake and biscuits on offer. 🙂


I have saved one of my sweet allowances today, so I shall be having a piece of cake with you and come and take a seat in the living room. If you want, you can put your feet up.

So what else have you been up to, since our last coffee chat? 

Since our last coffee chat, I have continued with my studies and I have been focusing on my garden. (I will share about my garden next year, in a separate post.) Things have been a bit slow, because of the weather, but hopefully I will have something to share with on this, next year.

I recently went with my Mum to Edwinstowe, where we had lunch at The Village Kitchen. We have been here once before for just a drink, but because we were having lunch elsewhere at the time we always said we would come back next time to here and try it out. It is always a lovely welcome here and the food is lovely.
From there, we then had a little walk around, where mum wanted to call into a craft shop that she has been in before, then we caught a bus back home. Once back home, I assembled by outside storage and placed what I wanted to go inside, before locking it up. It was lovely to get rid of the cardboard box it came in, with the trellis planters still in their boxes. Having them all in my front room is getting irritating. I was tired afterwards, because the outside storage was a pain in parts.
I thought a well deserved takeaway for me and my mum was well deserved later and when it was time for my mum to go home, she said she really enjoyed today and I could tell she did as well. So she really needed it.

I would have set about putting my trellis planters up, but I am leaving this for my handyman, because it does not look that straight forward to set up as it should be. I hope these will be up soon, so I can have some privacy between me and next door.

At some point in our coffee chat, you would come across my cat, Miley.

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I’m sure she say hello at some point. You would probably find she joins me on my lap for one of her many cuddles and depending how fussy she does get, while I chat with you, you will probably see her rub her face into mine.


Miley is a right fuss pot when she is like this.

If Miley is feeling brave, you may find she wants to come on your lap too, if you are fine with this. If not, just gently put your hand up to her while you say no and she will get the message.


This will be my last Virtual Coffee post for 2015. I will be back again with Virtual Coffee posts, starting sometime in the New Year.

I will always love the guitar, but I do not have the mindset to learn how to play, or the motivation.

I revealed here sometime back, how I have been learning and enjoying playing the acoustic guitar. Since a lesson where I could not wait to get out, I have gone from regular practising, to since then, only practising a couple of times since. The last few months now where I have not practised at all and so I have put it back in its own guitar bag, to keep the dust off.

I have now decided to sell my guitar because I just don’t have the right mindset, or motivation to play it. But I will always love the guitar and hearing the guitar. It saddens me that I have not been on it, but I know this won’t be enough to get back on it. I have put it on a back seat because of studies, which will go on a year or more. As well as this, I am learning a new hobby, which is crochet and I will probably learn a couple of more hobbies. I am loving the crochet and feel my brain has been exercised as I learn how to do the stitches.


If I do decide to learn to drive, then this will be another distraction where I will always put the guitar on the back seat, so to speak. It will be nice knowing that hopefully soon, it will go to a good home, where someone will enjoy and appreciate it.

Thinking of learning to drive

Although I still have the fear, the last 2 years I have been thinking about learning to drive. I have felt more inquisitive about it, which I only revealed to a few people about it recently, until now, in a post.

The past year, a few people have asked me if I have ever thought about learning to drive, but I have always answered no. People have said to me that although expensive, driving is a lovely freedom, as well as a new skill that increases confidence.

Recently, I asked a few friends of their experience in driving, whether they had been diving some years, or only a few months, to get different perspectives on it. Although the expense crops up with everyone I spoke to, the freedom that comes with driving came up too. Mostly everyone said that learning to drive is a good experience that increases your confidence and one that mostly everyone said to me, that if I could afford to drive, to take it up, as they totally recommended it.

I don’t know what my choice will be just yet, as I need to know if I can afford to. So I will be pondering this over the next couple of months. But good advice that I was given that I never thought about, was that if I had lessons and passed, but could not afford the car at that point, I could go for the extra skills lessons later, when I did.

Although I have already gave my thanks to those who I either asked for advice, or questions about driving, if you are reading this, then thank you again. 😊

When I revealed to my mum I was thinking about driving, her first response was, “insurance is expensive.”

I rolled my eyes and replied, “don’t you think I am not already looking into this and more? Thank you for your positive support.” (The last part in a sarky tone.)

Mum’s reply afterwards, “well you did mentioning it!”

I replied, “I mentioned about I was thinking of driving and said nothing about insurance. You said that!”

Mum’s reply, “I wouldn’t have the confidence to drive.”

Remember that post I wrote not long back called, Did you have anyone to look up to, as a child? This above conversation is another example of not so positive feedback, off a parent. Although still not a positive response, I was actually expecting my mum to be inquisitive and ask why I have thought about driving now. But I got that wrong.

As usual, the positivity has been from my circle of friends.