My D.I.Y. Retreat Reflection Post

Since I have written this post, ready for schedule, some things have now changed after recent events. Please read till the end of the post and the writing in blue is my update. 

So these are my reflections I had during and after my D.I.Y. Retreat.

  • To not be hasty in choices where I live, no matter how desperate I may feel at times. I have always said downstairs flat, so I must not choose a studio flat, just because it was the only option going in a preferred area to live.
  • I may have to learn I won’t get the area I want to live in and so I may need to decide on another area not as far away, which has plenty of choices. But will it be ok and far enough away for me, from where I currently live? (Carry on reading this post, for my answer to this question.)
    Also deciding on this area may be better job wise, if I was to get a job in this area.
  • I need to try to stick it out where I live, while I have Miley and not move unless I really have to. I don’t want to stress her out. (It took her a month to like and settle in where I currently live.)

So what can I do to try to make it bearable, where I live?

  • Maybe start travelling to the next town that has more choices to live. I know the area to a certain extent, but I’m just not a regular there, so I need to start going that way for things I need. I can then hopefully see whether I could imagine myself living in that area, or not.
    When I pop out for lunch, rather than doing it in my area, go that way instead.
  • Although I hope to not be moving yet, I shall window shop places available and go that way to look from the outside, to just to walk round that area. By doing this, I can imagine if I could live there and imagine what it would be like when walking home there, in the dark. When the time comes to choosing and looking for real, I will know what I like and what I don’t.
  • When I feel really overwhelmed, as I did recently before my retreat, I need to make sure I take time out to pamper me. If I can’t do it over a weekend like I did this time, then at least a day. I know this is easier said then done though, after that trigger. But hopefully I can do it and be aware.

I still want to leave the area for the same reasons of living somewhere new, but the added pressure that was getting to me was knowing my rent was going up, on top of going through PIP, with DLA stopping and going to PIP and so money worries, until I am sorted job wise of some kind.
Now although my rent is going up and so there is a little added pressure still there because of the PIP worries, there is also a little pressure and concern taken off. After I seen the person who manages the properties on behalf of landlords, I did mention to him that I would have to start looking sooner than I like, if I find my rent goes up again next year. The bloke was great with me and said that if the landlord next year wanted to put the rent up again, he will warn the landlord that I will leave. He promised me it would not go up again after this time and he would not want to see me homeless. So I felt relaxed and reassured by this.
Ever since I have been in this current property, I have been really happy with who I rent with and he is happy with me. He knows I look after the property well and that I am a good tenant, so he is happy with that.

I also know when it comes to downsizing later, when Miley is no longer with me and a place where I can park a car, when the time comes, I know I can stay with this company and choose one of their available properties.


My D.I.Y. Retreat: 3 of 3

Last post of my D.I.Y. Retreat, but do catch my reflection post some time later.


Toast with butter and jam
Tea or coffee

(Mixed nuts available to snack on, if required.)

Chicken, veg, yorkshire pudding and mash, with gravy.

Selection of crackers and assorted cheeses, with baby tomatoes.
Greek yogurt with fruit


8am – 9am Breakfast
9am – 10am Free time
10am – 11am Zumba, then free time till lunch.
12.30 – 1.30 Lunch
1.30pm to 4pm approx, watch DVD, “Logan,” followed by free time.
4pm till dinner Reflections in journal and free time
6pm – 7pm Dinner
7pm – 9pm Listen to music
9pm or 10pm Bed

Luckily it was free time for an hour after breakfast, as I chose to lie in for an hour.
After breakfast, I played “Dance, Dance, Dance,” on my Zumba DVD and could see my co-ordination was getting better than the first time I played it. I felt good afterwards.
It was free time before lunch, which gave me time in the kitchen to prepare what I needed.

After lunch, it was DVD time. Today I was watching, “Logan.” I have been looking forward to this since I bought it some weeks ago, ready for when I chose to have my retreat time. While watching it, I ate some strawberries.

I took a soak and washed my hair before dinner. I enjoyed my selection of crackers and cheeses, with mugs of tea to wash it down. I then listened to music, till bed, which I had an early night to prepare for the day tomorrow.

Here are some of my photos, from my own retreat.

Finding inspiration

I hope you enjoyed reading my three posts on what I did on my own D.I.Y. retreat and that it has gave you some inspiration. As I had mentioned in an earlier post, I learnt that it is personal to you and there is no right or wrong way about it.

It was also interesting Googling around on different types of home retreats, after deciding that was where mine would be and I found this useful PDF guide called 7 Steps to Create a Mini-Retreat at Home, giving me further ideas to creating my own retreat at home.
Coming across this guide, I learnt who was behind this and I went to visit their website, “Raw Horizons.” My coaching session is only part I have not shared, as this is personal to me and it would make it an extremely long post.

My D.I.Y. Retreat: 2 of 3

I hope you enjoyed my first post yesterday. Here is my second post of three.


Weetabix and banana
Tea or coffee

Cheese and onion quiche with mixed salad, tomatoes, cucumber, coleslaw and Mediterranean Style Couscous
Mixed nuts to snack on later and a strawberry and banana milkshake

Egg sandwich and a blueberry muffin


8am – 9am Breakfast
9am – 10am Pilates. Read a book while a scented candle was lit.
10am till lunch Relaxation with candle and write in my journal if required.
12.30 – 1.30 Lunch
1.30pm till approx 4pm Watch DVD; “We need to talk about Kevin,” followed by “Mrs Doubtfire.”
4pm till dinner Free time. Have a bubble bath soak
6pm – 7pm Dinner
7pm – 9pm Free time and reflection
9pm or 10pm Bed

No headache on getting up today, but the feeling of tiredness is still there. (The tiredness eased off and wasn’t as bad by lunch time.) After breakfast I made myself another mug of tea, relaxed with my feet up while reading my book. Miley joined me on my lap. I had my fragrance oil burning, but I had to stop using it as it was aggravating my asthma. It was a shame, as it was a lovely relaxing smell. It was a free gift from when I enrolled on the two courses, now completed as you know. So no money wasted.

After lunch, I watched my DVD’s while having a strawberry and banana smoothie and munching on some pine nuts and cashew nuts. It was then free time and reflection before dinner. Part of my free time I spent soaking in my bath using Sanctuary Spa Cleansing Burst Body Wash. (I poured this under running water.) I followed this up with Spa Sanctuary Cooling Body Sorbet moisturiser.
I could feel I was starting to wind down and so when I had dinner, I just had Camomile tea, or water till bed. Until bed, I just carried on reading my book, which I finished and I had an early night of 9pm.

See My D.I.Y. Retreat: 3 of 3 tomorrow.

My D.I.Y. Retreat: 1 of 3

So here is first post of three about my D.I.Y. Retreat in general and then there will be a fourth post some time later, which will be my reflection post.

This post, like the next two to follow, I will share my menu and schedule and then talk about some of my activities.


Toast with butter
Greek yogurt with fresh fruit
Tea or coffee

Salmon with mixed veg and potatoes

Cheese and beetroot sandwich
Jelly with greek yogurt


8am – 9am Breakfast
9am – 10am read a book
10am – 11am Free time (Answer coaching session questions.)
12.30 – 1.30 Lunch
1.30pm – 3pm Walk out in local park, then return home.
4pm – 5.30pm Paint my nails and relax (Finish off coaching session questions.) 6pm – 7pm Dinner
7pm – 9pm Free time and reflection
9pm or 10pm Bed

I was tired on getting up, so I had to really push myself out of bed. After breakfast, it was nice to give myself time to read a book I have been meaning to finish off reading; “A Cat is Watching,” by Roger A. Caras.

When it came to Zumba, I decided to play lesson not tried so far since owning this DVD. This one was the hardest of them all and I felt I had no co-ordination at all. But I did continue with it and tried the best I could to copy what they were doing. I kept this up for the first half hour, then I just watched with odd booging. I enjoyed it regardless and my mood felt better than it did first thing this morning, although I still felt the same tiredness.

I was thankful it was a lovely day today, with walking out in my local park planned, for a couple of hours. Walking in my local park is something I don’t very often do, to say it is not far away. Before heading home from my walk, I called into The Rumbles cafe for a latte.
Walking, or just sitting in the park, watching the world go by was relaxing.

When I was back home, I made myself a drink of Green Tea, painted my nails, (which I have not done for a while) and then I put my feet up, to read my next chosen book; “Molly and the Cat Cafe,” by Melissa Daley. Miley joined me, by sleeping on my lap.

After dinner, it was free time and reflection, which after doing my reflection in my journal, I did end up breaking the no technology rule at this point. This was to satisfy a curiosity that had been at the back of my mind for the last few hours. Once I did that, I was able to ease some anxiety. But before turning computer off, I did a job search and I applied for a job. This same job and company will be the second time I have applied. (The last time being I think a year ago.) I am hoping it will be second time lucky, as the difference between now and then, is that I now have my COSHH certificate. Something which was desirable and another person had. I am hoping from feedback the last time I applied, that I also take lessons on board to sell myself better and that I am appealing to them work-wise. Once I had done this, the computer was definitely off! and I was in bed half an hour after.

See My D.I.Y. Retreat: 2 of 3 tomorrow.

Chit-chat – September


Near beginning of September I decided to deactivate my Twitter account, as I could not commit to popping in at least once a week for 5 to 10 minutes to check on things.

My hand

I also went to see my doctor about my left hand as it was getting painful around a knuckle. I have had twinges around there on and off since my late 20’s or early 30’s, but it has never caused me concern and I could easily ignore it, until I nearly dropped a small bottle of cola and pain followed. Paracetamol did take it off for so long, but now it doesn’t.
After my doctor examined my hand, he did not think it was rheumatoid arthritis, but he wanted me to have a blood test to just rule it out. I also had an x-ray. I took his advice to use some pain killing gel on my hand, which he left for me to get as there was a gel I was aware of that suited me years ago, after a previous that had ibuprofen in it broke my skin within days. I could not remember name of and I would only recognise by seeing the packet, as I was aware the packet had changed since I used it years ago for my right knee. (Voltarol.) I never thought to use pain killing gel on my hand, which I have found helps better together with paracetamol at times. I can take paracetamol while using it, but not ibuprofen. But I can’t take ibuprofen anyway, as it interferes with my asthma now.
From seeing my doctor, I have to allow 4 weeks for x-ray to come back and then make an appointment, where I will find out the results.


My Health Care Foundation course is finished and I received a ‘High Merit,’ in my final examination piece. As much as I enjoyed this course and my mental health course, I am so glad to finish them both. I think this feeling of so glad to finish is because of how tired I have become with work issues I shared in a post a bit back, where I could not go into to detail.
My studies are just learning to drive and my pet sitting course now.
My next theory test is on 5th October and I need to pass this first, before I can start my driving lessons with my new instructor.

PIP (Personal Independence Payment)

It was my PIP assessment today, which I had to travel to Nottingham for this appointment. When I got there, (after first losing my way,) I found my appointment had been cancelled and they tried to phone me yesterday. I now have another one, for a few weeks time. My friends on Facebook will realise just how upset I was about this as my F words started coming out in a post I created while coming back from Nottingham, along with twats. But if they had seen me, they would have seen how upset I became, as I worked on my breathing, to keep myself calm as I could.
CAPITA have details on my PIP application form on how I communicate. When I gave my mobile number to them, this was for texts to keep me updated on my application. Text was written next to my number on my application form.

I can’t describe how I was feeling on the way to this assessment, other than through the anxiety I was already feeling, because I think this PIP form goes against the deaf.
I then started to feel sick, as I discovered my rent is going up from the landlord when I communicated with him via text while on the bus. So I find out some time next week how much that will be.
I also had a headache brought on by my anxiety, which I still have, but thankfully my sickness has gone and I was able to eat something when I got home.

As you know from tomorrow, I am having my D.I.Y. Retreat and so you may find your comments delayed being on show till I come back from my break.

Thanks for reading.

Going to be having my own D.I.Y. retreat

In a couple of past blog posts I have talked about D.I.Y retreats, after coming across another blogger who created her own retreat. (Related links at the end of this post.)
In the “Chit Chat” post, I showed you my box of goodies for my first and any future D.I.Y. retreats I plan to have. But to actually do my retreat, I had not picked dates when I was going to do it and I was wondering when I would. So after making time in my diary, I plan to have my retreat at home, 22nd to 24th September. I would have loved to have done it all week, but that was impossible. But this is better than nothing. 🙂
During this time I plan to have my D.I.Y. retreat at home, I will be uncontactable, as I won’t be using my mobile phone, or social medial and on the days I plan to be at home, if someone does ring my doorbell, then I won’t be answering.
I am allowing myself the use of my camera, but whether I will use it, I don’t know.

What I have learnt from looking up D.I.Y. retreats and also from the blogger who did one herself, which I shared her blog posts of her experience in the last link below, is that creating your own D.I.Y. retreat is personal to you. There is no right or wrong way about it and you can create different kinds of retreats yourself, especially if we don’t have the luxury to go away and pay for a retreat holiday.

I will share my retreat later, over three posts.

Related links:

Blog post share: Negativity is Your Best Friend

Do take a look at this helpful post, to knock negativity out of your way. 🙂

Budding Regardless

Whenever you have an idea in mind and try to make it come to life, negative people with their negative remarks will follow you around – it’s more like a package deal. Every time we see quotes on negativity, they are always telling us to stay away from negative people, squads and those who do not see us ever prospering. Instead of concentrating on all the bad things about negativity, choose to concentrate on the good things about it.

You can choose to use negativity as means of motivation – there will be people who won’t believe in what you are doing and they will see it pointless as a matter of fact but it is your duty to not take it to the head. However, if you do decide to take it to the head make sure you think about it in a positive manner.

These negative things…

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