Blog post re-share from my new blog, Liz’s Onward Journey

My last blog post re-share I plan to do here on this blog, from my new one, Liz’s Onward Journey. (Because even copying and pasting, I still hate this block editor and, find it a nightmare to use and it’s why I won’t blog here again and only from now on just comment on blogs I follow here.) This post is a follow on from previous blog share.

I have supported some bloggers in the past, on this topic. Some more than one ocassion,  reminding them in the comments section of their own blog posts, to post what you feel like writing. Also, to not apologise for what you have written. At the end of the day, bloggers shouldn’t have to worry about posting those difficult and hard life moments, no matter how long they last, if posting it helps them. 


Bloggers shouldn’t be in fear of the unsupportive, or abusive comments back either. Yes, I did say abusive, unfortunately. Yes, some bloggers receive this either directly on their blog, or behind the scenes. It’s not nice and doesn’t help that person who is having a really difficult time. Don’t kick a person down, who is already down. Goodness, how I have experienced that on two ocassions. 


I have held back at times with blogging. But mostly it was because I struggled to find the words. The only time I held back talking about something, through how others may react, was when I experienced being suicidal last year. My fear though wasn’t for the negative, but for the fear of upsetting my close friends, because of talking about it, sharing how I was. I have talked heavy at times. But never as heavy as when leading up to that moment. 

As I mentioned in a recent post, ‘Hypocrite,’ when it came to some heavy talk on my old blog, because unbeknown to you the reader, (although there may have been a few readers/frends picking up something was wrong there, at that time,) behind the scenes, I was starting to feel suicidal, before revealing it later on my blog I was. During these dark times leading up and after announcing, I was aware of a few that stayed away for a time and some who  continued to stay away, never returning. So they have not seen how I battled through, to the other side.


Now as I stated in ‘Hypocrite,’ I totally get why they had to go away for a break. Those that just had a break, while being supportive prior, I have no problems with. The ones I had a problem with were the readers and friends close by, or other people close by that don’t read my blog, that were giving me the pep talk on how I shouldn’t give up on mum, yet they couldn’t put up with me for that very dark period in my life and still struggling moments now, (but not suicidal). So effectively, what they preached, they couldn’t do themselves. So if they couldn’t just support me these past few months, to a year of my worst, then just how would they have coped if they were in my shoes instead and lived my life and still live it now, as I do a new role to come in my life, while supporting my mum? 


The post, ‘Hypocrite,’ I wanted to write sooner on my other blog, (this WordPress blog) but was torn away by issues regarding mum and other things that were burning my energy. 


The post, ‘Hypocript,’ is a post to be read word by word, not skimmed, to get that post. 


If the post, ‘Hypocript,’ came across strong, it was meant to. After all, I am speaking strongly about it now. I may have been quite before and not been able to write sooner as I would like on this, but my energy had to be used wisely. 


Just like a different scenario away from my blog at my evening job, because I had enough of a situation for so long, as I once blogged, it came to the crunch, now hold on I have had enough of this. That person would have been shocked at my response, but I don’t care, I wasn’t allowing that person to have the opportunity no more, after observations the past year of realising what was happening now and again, so it was  clear words that I wasn’t going to chat on a personal level. Only work related conversation was going to happen from now on, when required. I wasn’t going to give that person an open door to choose how to treat me. I wasn’t going to have a person that thinks it’s ok to give it, but doesn’t like it when they receive the equivalent back. 


My blog, like many other mental health blogs are our safe place to air and let out our feelings. For some, blogging is their only place to air and let those feelings out.It’s theraputic. 


But also my blog, like others, becomes helpful to the next person who is going through those difficult moments, or similar. They then realise they are not alone and that they will get through the other side eventually, or learn to handle things better. It may also start to give them a voice, after finding my blog, or blogs similar to what they are going through. 


So all the difficulties in life that I share, or other bloggers share on their blogs, ends up being positive, because of helping others, while we try and help ourselves. 


So it’s not all bad now is it, in the long run? 


Life cannot be sugar coated. We all have been there, or still are. The question is how we get through each day. 


Those that know me very well because they have followed me a long time, will know a point where I reached a more positive and confident person. But even then, there are going to be bad times. (Mental health affects anyone.) But the question is how we get up?


You are not going to see that daily battle up front, or when I am writing, just how I am in that post that day, or that month, if you choose to disappear at my worst, to know how I climbed up to my best, if you are not in all the way and following. But then, it’s no loss to me, because I have to choose where I spend my energy, because it can be in short supply and, so I value my energy and also my time.

This, and other blog posts can be found at Liz’s Onward Journey; lizsonwardjourney.blogspot.com

As mentioned before, in earlier posts, this blog is coming to an end at end of December. I currently have no plans to delete this blog, but in 2 years time after it ends, I will review as to whether I keep it up still, or not.

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Blog post re-share: ‘Hypocrite,’ by Liz’s Onward Journey

A blog post re-share from my new blog. A post I aired today. Post closed to comments here even though I am re-sharing my own blog post from there. Comments open at original post where it came from.

Re-sharing to make my words loud and clear.

I won’t apologise for layout of this post here because I hate block editor and cannot get on with it.

To former readers of my blog, or friends that no longer hang around now, or disappeared in the past year, because they could not cope with my heavy posts the past year, or my very dark times. I get it. I really do. I have had to break away from mum for so many months, to care for my mental health, which I still have to watch and watch how far I get involved to not go back there of last year, where I was suicidal. 

But to those who expected me to still stand by my mum, who mentally I have been affected by in some way since 11 years old because of what I have seen, or heard, (as well as what dad was like) and who has supported my mum from my teens as an unofficial carer, with no help via anyone else until it came to mum’s suicide attempt over a year ago, you are a bloody hypocrite! You couldn’t stand by, or read my blog posts this past year during those times, where you would have seen me find ways to drag myself out of those dark times. To fight each day. But yet you expect me to stand by my mum. (Which I will, regardless how I feel at times.)


But if you couldn’t cope with reading, or listening to me this past year, then how would you have coped from the age of 11 years old to present? I didn’t have a choice. I still feel I don’t and just get on with it.I am still there for mum regardless. But where were you for me?


Hypocrite!

To those that stayed through the dark and light. Thank you.

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Link to original post on my new blog: https://lizsonwardjourney.blogspot.com/2020/10/hypocrite.html?m=1

Blogging break the month of October

I am having a blogging break all the month of October. So all will be quiet from me during this time. Although, I may be visiting your blogs.

Take care and see you in November on blog at Blogger and December here at this blog, where next scheduled posts are.


Please note, this blog is coming to an end. Further details can be found here, including link to my new blog.

Weird… Strange…

I have been classed weird, or strange over the years. These times are rare when they happen and when they do, it’s usually by people who don’t know me at all.

Regardless that this can still hurt when I hear this. I don’t care what they think, when they don’t know me.

I don’t automatically let anyone in. I have to know you first, then slowly the walls will go down. Depending on how much I trust you, or how much you are involved in my life will depend on whether I partly let you in, or fully let you in.

But if you do something that knocks that trust away, then the walls quickly go up and are not likely to come down for you.

When you see someone who you think is weird, or strange, rather than think that say hello and see what happens. Chances are you will get an hello back, with a smile. You don’t know their background that makes them like that. For me, I had fear of dad growing up. I was bullied at school from late junior school age and all through comprehensive. So I don’t give trust easily. I stand back and observe you, seeing what you are like. You are either going to be a person who I think may be ok. Or you may be some I don’t want to know, or don’t feel comfortable around, because how you come across. I am more cautious of men, then women, because I have been in an abusive relationship and then another relationship who years later after splitting up with him, found out what a person he was like that he was hiding and so I will never go out with a man. But if I have a man just as a friend, then it means I have trusted you as a friend. But regardless of trust, I would still never go out with a man. Being single is the way I will go. I would never be intimate again. The idea makes me sick. I have done more as a single person, than in a relationship.

So next time you are thinking someone is strange, or weird. Rather than call them up front, or behind their backs, ask yourself why that might be? Say hello because you want to be a friend, otherwise walk away and leave that person alone. They have enough to possibly contend with.

© Elizabeth Fisher and My Wellbeing and Learning Journey.

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A quick thank you

A quick thank you to those already following my new blog, Liz’s Onward Journey at https://lizsonwardjourney.blogspot.com/

I really appreciate you following me at my new blog. So thank you. Also thank you for commenting there too.

The latest posts that are there, are chit-chat posts and the weekend posts I write, along with others I feel compelled to write at the time. So if you like to keep up to date with me and my life, then that’s where I will be.

Here, there are no posts until 30th September where I will just be announcing of a blogging break and other details regarding posts to come. The posts to come here, after my blogging break, are posts already scheduled in December. Then thats it. The end here.

For further information what I plan to do with this blog and regarding the new one, you will find details in the sticky post. This sticky post always stays at the top, regardless of new posts.

Quotes/mantras

Started off as quotes, but I think they have become my mantras.

It is what it is.

It is what it is – What my friend Sarah gave me last year and I have been using this saying ever since.
I didn’t think at the beginning just how powerful these words would become to me. Thank you, Sarah.

No looking back.

No looking back – My mantra I have been using more of this year.

I have had other quotes that have helped me get through difficult times, but these two are what I now currently use the most.
I know these will go into next year, hence I used my mantra for my bi-line of my new blog.

I will write these on my whiteboard, in place of what I had before.

What are your quotes/mantras?


My new blog:

https://lizsonwardjourney.blogspot.com


© Elizabeth Fisher and My Wellbeing and Learning Journey.

Unauthorised use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to My Wellbeing and Learning Journey with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. (But Guest Posts that feature on my blog are not allowed at all to be duplicated, as that is their copyright.)

Quiet

I like to have quiet, but as you know I have been watching a lot of dvd’s for some time now.
Most times, watching dvd’s has been from afternoon, to quiet late. But because I have been having some quieter evenings; dvd’s not going into the late evening, or not at all, I am noticing how my hamster, Daz, comes out in his surroundings, (his cage,) slightly earlier than he would before. And this I have noticed is because its been quiet. So Daz likes quiet too.

I will leave you with a couple of photos of Daz, that I have shared before.


© Elizabeth Fisher and My Wellbeing and Learning Journey.

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Blog post re-share: Dear WordPress

My feelings exactly.

This, That, and The Other

I just sent this screed below to the “too bad, so sad” response I got from the Happiness Engineers at WordPress. I know it won’t do any good, and that I’m shouting into deaf ears, but I had to get it off my chest. If you’re a fan of the block editor, if you don’t use or don’t care about the hassle that the block editor is causing for those of us who blog using our smartphones, or if you are just sick and tired of  bloggers like me whining about being forced to use it, feel free to skip this post. I won’t be offended.

Dear WordPress,

I’m having trouble wrapping my head around WordPress’ strategy. You say that the classic editor available on the plugin in the Business Plan is the same one that is available at the wp-admin site. And you say that it was “built with…

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