My thoughts and sympathies are with the family, at this sad time.

I learnt today, through social media that mental health blogger, Claire Greaves passed away. I don’t know exactly the day she passed away, but Mind announced it in a tweet on 1st March 2018 and I have seen someone else announce their sadness of knowing her passing on the 28th February 2018.

I have never met Claire Greaves, but I was a follower of her blog for some time at, “Mental Illness Talk.” Claire Greaves has battled with mental ill health for many years, battling with anorexia and personality disorder and through her blog, Claire shared her experiences with her illness to spread awareness and understanding, to reduce stigma surrounding mental health.
She was also a campaigner for Mind and contributor to the #DearStranger book. Her last blog post was 8th May 2017, at a scary moment in her life. I always kept following this blog in hope of seeing another post where Claire would have been seen beating her horrid illness. But sadly, after learning, it was never meant to be.

My condolences are with the family at this sad and difficult time.

R.I.P. Claire Greaves x


Post share from, “Every Day Is A Mental Health Day.”

This video is something I came across via Facebook, while taking a break from blogging that I can totally relate too. It’s from Facebook page called, “Every Day Is A Mental Health Day” and the video is about what it is like to have high-functioning anxiety. The link below will take you to this video on their page.

Post share: “My battle cry: Ignorance is not an excuse,” by A Kinder Way.

Ignorance is no excuse. It is time to learn to gain an understanding, if you don’t know about someone’s mental health. Ignorance can damage.
Learn more here, why ignorance is no excuse.

A Kinder Way


I have had OCD for 14 years. Throughout those 14 years, I’ve been supported, understood and believed by many people in my life.  I’ve been shown a great deal of love and patience. I’ve seen effort and kindness, compassion and an incredible amount of care. To those people…thank you….from the bottom of my heart. THANK YOU.

The thing is…I’ve also felt a lot of negative things about my diagnosis.

I’ve felt embarrassed and ashamed.

I’ve felt burdened and scared.

I’ve felt guilty and sad.

I’ve felt overwhelmed, confused, angry and frustrated.

I’ve been dismissed and ignored and even felt betrayed a time or two.

This year I’ve made a commitment to myself and my health.

I will no longer allow myself to be treated negatively over something I have no control over.

I will no longer accept ignorance as an excuse for any lack of understanding about my diagnosis from the…

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Another D.I.Y. retreat. (With sadness.)

I had another D.I.Y. retreat, last Saturday to Sunday, to give myself some self-care and timeout after issues at work, the PIP assessment that I worked myself up over prior and in preparation for when I had my extraction on my tooth. I allowed myself access to technology this time, but it was limited and my mobile phone remained on, in case of emergencies.

My menu was how I originally planned it, before I knew I was going to do one and although I had a schedule for the two days, I did not plan it out into too much details as in regards to the time for everything.

Saturday schedule

  • Breakfast – 8.30am
  • Read a book for an hour or so. (10 mins on internet)
  • “Dance That Walk Cardio Party” DVD – 10.30am (an hour)
  • Lunch – 12.30
  • DVD: “Don’t be afraid of the dark,” followed by reflect and then relax with a book till dinner.
  • Dinner – 6.30pm
  • Relax in bath before bed, at 9pm. (I also used one of my face masks at this point, while in bath.)

Saturday menu

  • Cereals at breakfast
  • Lunchtime: Quorn balls with tinned tomatoes, tinned chickpeas and mixed veg. (Serve what I need and separate the rest into portions to freeze later when cool.)
  • Sardine sandwich at dinner


Sunday schedule

  • Breakfast – 8.30am (I stayed in bed till 9.30am, so breakfast was about 10am.)
  • Free time in, or out.
  • Lunch 12.30
  • DVD: “Exit Wounds.”

My Sunday schedule then stopped, because I was heartbroken. I seen on my timeline about a couple that died in Meden Vale, but names had not been announced. After looking online at my local paper, the names were announced; Sandra and Michael Dangerfield. They were apparently died at the scene, after a collision with a car. I am devastated. A good friend of mine took me to where flowers had already been laid, as in the news link above. I had to see for myself. There was a photo of them both with someone else. This confirmed for me they had both gone. They were taken too soon and I hope the investigation going on uncovers what happened there.

When I arrived home, I just spent a bit of time on Facebook, while having a scented candle lit and mugs of tea.

Sunday menu

  • Cereals at breakfast
  • Jacket potato with parsnip and veg, for lunch.
  • Just a scone I could stomach and a few mugs of tea, due to above mentioned.



Blog post share: Cool your Anger

Great post of ideas, for anger, when you are fed up or on edge. 🙂

Discovering Your Happiness

Below are some pointers on cooling your anger + ways to go about really calming our emotions when we are angry,

When You’re Arguing

  • Make it a priority to respond kindly/respectfully
  • Focus on breathing slowly + deeply
  • Politely excuse yourself from the area/room, get some space
  • Accept that you won’t get through to someone and inwardly wish them peace
  • Ask yourself if this is worth the energy
  • Notice you are angry, imagine yourself feeling forgiving
  • Put yourself in the other person’s shoes
  • breathe when you want to yell or raise your voice
  • Emulate how you think someone peaceful would respond

When You’re On Edge

  • Spray a calming smell
  • Pet an animal
  • Watch/Listen to a comedy
  • Go for a walk/run
  • Take a nap
  • Eat a delicious meal
  • Spend time in nature
  • Allow yourself to laugh
  • Make a joke or read one
  • Close your eyes, focus on being quiet
  • Write down your…

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Self Care Ideas for Bad Days

For those of us that have bad days. Let’s try these suggestions. 🙂

Discovering Your Happiness

It’s okay to have ‘off’ days 🙂 you are human + this is normal.

When we do feel this way, the below list could really help the way you feel.

  1. Take a bubble bath
  2. Read a good book
  3. Read a personal development book
  4. Read a fun magazine
  5. Have a solo dance party
  6. Listen to an inspirational podcast
  7. Paint your nails
  8. List 10 things you’re grateful for
  9. Play with a pet
  10. Try a guided meditation
  11. Play a board game
  12. Watch the clouds
  13. Stargaze outside
  14. Take three deep breaths
  15. Unfollow negative people on social media
  16. Unplug from technology for an hour
  17. Do a legs up the wall yoga pose (you just lie down on the floor next to the wall and put your legs up vertically on the wall)
  18. Take a cat nap
  19. Watch a funny movie or TV show
  20. Wear your pajamas all day
  21. Say positive affirmations
  22. Get dressed up for…

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