It’s the weekend (A late post)

Since post, Happy to sad and back again, it’s been confirmed by those assessing her, that the only safest option for my mum, is a nursing home.
Mum will stay at nursing home where she currently is. It was explained that in the future, another assessment would be made to see if there were any changes, so I would be informed of that.

I have an appointment set for seeing the solicitor later, who will help me with the Court of Protection.

So onto this, ‘It’s a weekend’ post. 

This ‘It’s the weekend’ post is a late one, given the circumstances of the post.

Yesterday, I went back to my mum’s bungalow. I set out very early in a morning from my flat and walked it there. 3.8 miles googling it, for those that are interested in my walking. A long walk yes, but not as long as the one I mentioned I did last year. That was 4.5 miles, if you remember.
While sorting what I was bringing back to bring back, I ran the water taps and shower, with it being some months not being used.

Mum has quite a few things packed, so not much packing to do, than final items she’d been using until finally packing one day.

A friend was coming to pick me up, so I could put them in his car, to take them back to mine. We did two trips, which were mainly a few boxes and bags, plus small dining table and two chairs.

I still have a bit more to bring, but thats after giving it a quick clean. So I left items to do that. I just need to arrange a removal for a few items I plan to bring to mine, fridge freezer and ottoman. Then hopefully, I can get a charity to collect other furniture.

Also, as you know, my mum hasn’t been at her bungalow for months. Someone had the cheek to use her bins. But they used a couple of bins inappropriately and mum received a letter saying this was second complaint in 6 months it happened with recyle bin. As you can imagine, I was pissed off. I immediately emailed regarding it, but since that email I sent on 3rd July, I decided to do my own investigating. I sorted the recyle bin and put what shouldn’t be in there in general waste bin. Then I checked the garden waste bin. It was full with everything but garden waste. Mum doesn’t use this bin. So I looked through it. I didn’t need to go far to find proof of old mail in there. Addressed to next door! I brought that bin inside the bungalow and I sent an email to mum’s Social Worker, asking if by chance she was able to contact a particular chap directly I emailed, to get things moving, with not hearing. I explained the problem to her and that if she could get him directly, to tell him since last email I sent, I have sorted bin concerned, but garden waste bin has been filled, not related to the garden and that there is evidence in there who done it and so I have brought the bin inside mum’s bungalow. Explaining how mum’s other neighbour came round to tell me about that and what happened and that apparently he died and so someone else clearing up property, was enquiring about my mum’s bins. I expect him to take a look at the evidence himself and I hope he is going to to take action. Because after all, the letter explained you could be fined, if it continues. So he better do them, that came onto my mum’s property, to use her bins! So Social Worker will come across this email when she is back on Tuesday.

In the afternoon I watched a dvd, after getting changed in fresh clothes.

I then had an early night. But to say I was very tired, after two hours being in bed, but not falling asleep, I got up for a bit. Had a bowl of cornflakes and watched Daz. (Hamster.)

Today, I got up, when I woke up. After a shower and breakfast, I plan to bake something sweet. These are what I plan to bake: https://lucysfriendlyfoods.com/2020/07/06/chocolate-cornflake-cookies-aka-afghan-cookies/

For the rest of my day, it won’t be much than do the washing (mine and mum’s) and sew a button on my work trousers, to make sure it’s secure. I am feeling slightly tired today.

What have you been up to? 


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Happy to sad and back again

So without trying to go into much detail and make this post long. If you have been following for sometime, you will know it has been a very difficult time, for some time, with my mum and how it’s affected me during that course.

Part of the afternoon, (just 2 hours abouts) it was a whirlwind of emotions.
During that time a fair bit of communicating earlier in the day to after lunch in parts. I decided with communicating to my mum’s Social Worker about it, that I was going to take on responsibility of mum’s financial affairs. I wasn’t going to let the council do it because in the end I would have no say. But as Social Worker also mentioned, it wouldn’t have been personal, like it would if a family member took charge. So Social Worker is happy to hear I will take it on. So I will be applying for Court Of Protection.
Court Of Protection has to happen with there being no Power of Attorney and a Power Of Attorney can’t be done now, because mum doesn’t have the mental capacity.

Although I will get eventually reimbursed, due to this, the hoping of having a house deposit by middle of next year is not going to happen. I shall have to see what the year after brings, because I know from already reading about Court of Protection, that there is a fee each year. I don’t know if that would come out of mum’s, or mine. But I will learn as it happens.
The fee is higher the first year, because of the support you receive for the role. I may talk about that experience later, when the time comes. Or I may not. It’s starting to feel even more of a very personal journey. Not just for me. But mum too. So it more will likely be the part I won’t talk about here.

So the 2 hour window of emotions came on as soon as I knew I would take it on. I went from feeling good and happy, to sad. A quick headache appearing. Sadness turned to tears, for the reality biting more, that mum will never be as independent as I would like and the nursing home being only option where mum will be.

Mum’s Social Worker is supporting me where required. She advised how I could proceed, via two ways.
I could do it myself online, or if I find it difficult, then to use a solicitor, although extra costs would be involved.
I tried the link and looked at the forms and procedures, for where I could do it myself and it felt very daunting and I wasn’t feeling confident with it. So I enquired with two solicitors.
First one, after reading their email, regardless my savings would cover, my heart was sinking as I totalled the fees. Some of these fees could go up, or it was minus the VAT. I knew my dream home wouldn’t happen next year, because it was going to gobble most of my savings. (Although before all this, I wondered if it would happen anyway.) But now, it’s definitely not.
The second solicitor was more clearer than the first. There were no grey areas and would work out cheaper.
Still expensive. But cheaper and I was feeling very relaxed reading this email. So the happy face returned. So the second solicitor will get the job.
Yes, it may cost more this way than trying it myself. But it will be less stressful and I will feel reassured. I can concentrate on other things.

I was going to buy Christmas presents this year, for friends. But now, I think I have to give it a miss this year. So I hope you are reading this, so you are all aware. It saves me letting you know individually. So let’s just stick with Christmas cards again.
This is going to be a slow process. So I need to focus on this, instead of shopping for presents. I know you, my friends will understand.


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Chit-chat extra

My peace lily plant is still doing well, after transferring it onto a larger pot a few months back. So not killed it.

Peace lilly plant

My biggest fear are large spiders and escalators.

I have fear of snakes too, but given an opportunity and starting small, I would touch and hold a small snake.

I have attempted many times when it has come to escalators, which has lead me to go up them, even though depending on size of escalator, I can still have a bit of fear. But coming down on them is a different story. My fear has never changed, no matter how many times I have come down on one, so I don’t even try anymore. But going up I still do sometimes, without a fuss, even though a little fear, or a little anxiety is there.
As for the height thing, there is something I would like to do, that is at a height. I have mentioned it before here what that was, as well as on my previous blog I used to write and that’s go on the mini version of the London Eye. Then maybe one day, the London Eye.
I have wanted to do this after being inspired by my friend who went on the London Eye years ago, when she came to the UK for a holiday. She shared her photos of her London Eye experience and yes, I could see the fear in her eyes behind the smile, as she does not like heights either.
It’s still on the cards for me to do this, but as you know with the current situation we are all in, I am in no hurry to travel and do other certain things, when things ease off further from lockdown.

I don’t have a particular favourite month, so I can’t narrow it down to one. I like April as that’s when flowers start to come to life, like daffodils and snowdrops, which I like to see. You know summer is just around the corner when flowers start to show.
I like May to July because of the warmer weather and hotter months. But not too hot that I feel I am melting.
The other I like is when autumn starts. I like the colours of the leaves as they change and the crunch under your feet, when you walk on them. Also, the days where sometimes it’s cold enough just for a thick jumper, but no coat needed. Those days I think are special.

If there was a such thing as having a last meal, my last meal would be a nut roast, with veg and gravy. A bit of apple sauce, or cranberry sauce on the side.

And if I was lucky to win big money, then my choice has not changed. I’d still have a bungalow, as I have mentioned in past posts.


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My feelings – Part 8

So it’s been about 4 months since my last, ‘my feelings’ post.
Part 7 was mainly my feelings brought on with the Coronavirus, due to things from that.
In this post there still is, but it doesn’t overtake like last post, because I’m working again in both jobs still, since back in them.
But as for the rest, some restrictions may have been lifted, but as you know if you are a regular reader, that I am in no hurry to go out there and join in.
I  continue to walk to and from work in both jobs and I shop at my local supermarket just down the road at most, twice a week. Nothing else, unless it’s important.
I think its too soon to go into my town centre and shop there. I have already seen, or experienced it myself where people don’t observe the 2 metre distance, so I ain’t going to join the crowd of shoppers (if there was in my area) for a shopping spree. I do this to protect others, to make sure I’m not going to be a carrier, because some person not observing social distancing, who is not in my circle, unsuspecting passed it onto me because they did not keep their distance. I had to politely tick someone off at the checkout of my local supermarket I was at, because she stood right behind me, instead of 2 metres. She moved back when I spoke. But it still wasn’t enough.

I have mentioned in brief in places as well as here, of going to my mum’s bungalow. I’ll be doing another trip this month. My anxiety was up in the roof going Friday. It didn’t help that I was expected to go with just less than 24 hours notice, to let in a council worker to do a service check of the boiler.
Regardless of the anxiety, it helped knowing my neighbour offered to help and take me.
I brought some things back while at it, that I hope to take to the nursing home one day. Just waiting on an email for that.
I also brought back her paperwork in folders that I planned to do, in addition to the mail that’s been piling up since November, when I was last there.
Amazingly, I sorted through that by the evening. But then with a system in place which I am so glad my mum has not got rid of again, since creating it again, helps.

Going through her paperwork regardless of anxiety, I realised I got my ‘business head’ on that I like to call it. It reminded me that this side of things I could do. But given the current situation with mum, which I have not shared with you fuly yet, I can’t do anything else, with not having access. But I won’t want to deal with everything when it comes to certain things anyway, I rather do this with someone else when this part has been sorted and someone is nominated, like the Social Worker mentioned one time on how things may go, if it happened.

I would like to transfer my mum’s mail to my address, but again, due to circumstances, I can’t do yet, until all this is sorted out.
Given the discussions this past week I’ve been having with mum’s Social Worker and her advocate, the long term solutions are being discussed, so the ball might be rolling, as they say.
I can see it will happen. Mum is not mentally well and from what I’ve been told, she’s declining further.
I am sad that this is what the future will be for my mum. But if nursing home is only the option, then where she is currently, I would like her to stay there, if mum is still not going to be able to communicate herself still. The nursing home is a suitable place for her needs and, it feels homely and theraputic.
When things have been decided officially, I will say more at some point later.


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It’s the weekend

This weekend, I plan to watch some shows on dvd I have.

Today, I will watch:

  • Cirque Du Soleil – Dralion
  • Cirque Du Soleil – Varekai

Tomorrow, it will be:

  • Cirque Du Soleil – Journey Of Man

 

I will also bake some more of those oaty biscuits again this weekend. I will more likely make these early this morning. Before this post goes to air.
I shall make two batches; one batch for me and another batch for my neighbour I regularly see each week for a cuppa at mine, as well as times when we pass. (The ones who have been lending me their dvd’s and cd’s.) His wife was happy to give me a lift to my mum’s bungalow and back, yesterday, so I could let a council worker in to do an annual gas service check on mum’s boiler.

At the beginning of the week from same neighbour, I received a rhubarb crumble that she baked. Yum. I was in heaven with that. I like my rhubarb and it was my first crumble since going dairy-free.

I don’t know what else I will be doing this weekend, but I am definitely doing the above.

What’s your weekend plans?


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Update on Holland and Barrett

So today, I got my refund for the goods not received, in my bank account. So case closed and no shopping with them online, due to their disgusting customer service. As I am avoiding town centre, means they have lost me as a shopper. I don’t know when I will ever go into the town centre, than when I really have to. But while I can avoid. I will.

They said in an email for what happened in regards with my order:

“It seems that this item was omitted from your order during the packing phase at our warehouse. We would like to reassure you that this isn’t standard practice for us. Can you please confirm if you would be happy for us to resend these items permitting they are still in stock? If not, i’d be more than happy to process a refund instead.

We are really sorry for the inconvenience caused.”

But they were happy to keep my money wasn’t they? instead of refunding there and then, at time of omitting!

Disgusting, is all I can say to their online service and as I have said already, I have done shopping online with them.

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Fibbing Friday -3rd July

It’s Fibbing Friday and I wasn’t going to do it originally with how I feel this week and what has been going on. Be here I am with it.

The idea with Fibbing Friday is to fib a little, a lot, tell whoppers, be inventive, silly or even outrageous, in your response and evade the truth. Fibbing Friday has been kept going between two bloggeres, Di and Frank.
There’s a book theme going today, that Di has done for today’s.

For more about it how to play and if you are joining along with today’s, then visit Di’s post here and link there, if playing along: https://pensitivity101.wordpress.com/2020/07/03/fibbing-friday-3rd-july-2020/

1. War and Peace – A majority of trying to keep the peace, but Trump creating a war.
2. The Green Mile – I can think of two versions. One being me rapping to Eminem tune, (in your dreams) down a painted green street. Or and this cones as a warning, ‘aeroplane,’ as they call it if you was a kid who wipped their snotty nose on their sleeve. 🤢
3. Dances with Wolves – Me dancing while howling.
4. Jaws – Watch it. I’ll bite your head off.
5. The Wind in the Willows – Me farting in the reeds, to frighten a passer by.
6. The Deserter – Oh how I want t to be one. But never do in the end.
7. One Shot – One shot for Sylvester to finally get Tweetie Pie, before he retires. Oh blimey, he should be retired, so he lost once again to that one shot.
8. It – Who is IT?
9. Independence Day – Let it be every day. Fingers stuck up to the dick heads…
10. The Count of Monte Cristo – I can’t think of an answer.

Just the simple things

My thermos travel mug. Stainless Steel and black

With things being tiring in my evening job, leaving me tired by the weekend, that I don’t want to do anything and getting up for my morning job hard, sometimes finding the simple things makes it a little easier.

To make things easier for my morning job, I have started making a second mug of tea in a morning, to take with me to work.

This simple thing on some difficult, tiring days I have found comforting and it’s helped me get through the shift.

Also, when I first started doing it, it felt luxurious, because it wasn’t something I normally did.

If you have difficult days, change a thing to help it be a little easier.

Sometimes it only needs to be a simple thing.


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It’s the weekend

So those of us who live in the UK, any of you melted?
Goodness, it’s been hot and it was hard to keep the temperature down in my flat, especially on Thursday, with the fan on.
A frozen bottle in use again for my hamster, Daz, since it got very hot. Placed outside the cage, so he feels it along the cage wall where he usually sleeps, giving him the option to cool down.
They had to be swapped regular on Thursday and because the ice inside the bottle would have all melted before me coming home from work, I wonder how he would be.
This was where I found him. In the corner, under his hamster wheel, looking because he was aware of me while taking a photo, but prior to that, he was all curled up. He soon curled up again, after.

My hamster Daz, in the corner of his cage under his wheel

So this weekend started as of yesterday, with me having an annual leave in both jobs. So I have a nice long weekend.

It’s also a weekend I have been looking forward to the last 2 weeks, after deciding what to do. I will tell you what it is in a minute. 🙂🤭

You may remember many posts ago, as it was earlier in the year, that I hoped to visit Stonehenge. But because the coach pick up wasn’t local, I didn’t end up booking it. (Not that now we know how things are now, it would have been cancelled anyway.) Had it happened, that day trip would have been yesterday.
You may remember I had an alternative in mind, after realising the coach wasn’t a local pick up for that day trip, but I said I would share that later. Well that alternative is not happening either. But even if it was, I wouldn’t have gone because of the anxiety of travelling and also not wanting to go in a cafe. The alternative I had in mind was Kitty Cafe in Nottingham.

So… going with a replacement for Kitty Cafe, but without going anywhere, after giving it some thought, I decided I was going to have a bit of a cat theme weekend. 🙂 Meow. 🐱

So yesterday, I made shortbread biscuits using a cat-shaped cutter. Here they are, first lot not long come out of the oven. 🙂
I shared some with my two neighbours below and enjoyed mine, later.

Shortbread cat shaped biscuits

I then coloured in a cat picture using coloured pencils. (One of a few free PDF cat pictures, after googling for them.)

Cat picture i have coloured in. Cat sat in front of window looking towards, with a vase of flowers to the right. In the background outside, you can see another cat looking towards the window. There are trees and a lawn outside.

Later in the afternoon, I watched a dvd, ‘A Street Cat Named Bob.’

Today, I did another batch of cat shaped shortbread.
I plan to colour in another cat picture, using coloured pencils and enjoy a few of my shortbread cat biscuits, with mugs of tea.

Then at some point today, watch a Japanese anime feature dvd called, ‘The Cat Returns.’ I have not watched an anime type before, so this will be a new experience for me. The dvd is Japanese, with English subtitles and English dub.

Tomorrow, will just be colouring any cat pictures I have left, then watching dvd’s not related to cats.

In between my cat themes I have planned, the rest will just be relaxation and whatever else I fancy doing. I have some cd’s from my neighbour to play, so will probably play some of them.
One I have enjoyed playing earlier this week was ‘Piano Man The Very Best of Billy Joel.’ There was a dvd with this too. Listening and watching, I realise I have heard a few more songs of his than I originally thought.

What’s your weekend like?


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