Caregiving consists of joint relationships focusing only on the needs of care-recipients. Caregivers are the significant but forgotten halves of these alliances. Quality care environments are created by satisfying the needs of caregivers AND care-recipients. In order to provide consistent quality care, caregivers need…. 1.) ….dependable emotional support. Caregivers need to voice concerns and discuss […]
I came across this blog recently; North Van Caregivers, as I searched for blogs recently related to caregivers. Although this company is not based in the UK, I have still found this blog helpful and I wanted to share it here, because of that.
North Van Caregivers blog is “conversations and inspiration for unpaid caregivers,” as it says underneath the title of their blog. Reading their about page, it introduces their Northshore Community Resources, where I see they are based in North Vancouver. They offer support and information to those providing unpaid care to a friend or family member. So if you are in North Vancouver and an unpaid carer, you may want to check them out.
But even if you are not, their blog I feel is valuable, so do take a read of their blog and comment there, in their posts, which they encourage you to do, because as they say, “We think the written word is a powerful way to share ideas and inspiration, and we invite you to join in the exchange here.”
But because they are not based in the UK, just bear in mind they cannot help in regards to UK care stuff, but I felt their content they share helps you as a carer, especially the emotional stuff and life as a caregiver.
Today, when I went to see mum, I found she wasn’t there at the mental health unit. Instead, mum was sent to A&E. Mum had a fall in the early hours, but she was ok from that. They sent my mum instead because of her being chesty and having a temperature. Not because of her fall. They said they sent me an email early in the morning. (This email never arrived until the evening.) So after looking for mum on A&E to see if she was still there, or on a ward, I found her to be on an emergency assessment unit.
Mum will be there for a day, or two, to be observed, while on oxygen and antibiotics. The nurse thinks this could be linked to her overdose and the time she was unconscious. If all is fine in this day or two, them mum will be back in the mental health unit.
Mum was happy and joking and I was joking back. Me and mum were certainly both on form today, compared to yesterday. (See Today was a hard day) I am hoping all will be fine and that this is just a precaution.
For damage free walls, I recommend the ‘Command’ brand.
I have used their Command large sticky hooks, which were the first thing I used some years ago and still do.
I have also used Command Wire Hooks and since last October, Command Decorating Clips, in clear.
The photo below is where I am using their Command Decorating Clips. These are in clear and as you expect, you don’t see them. Instead, you are just focusing on the display, which mine are holding my peg lights up. On my peg lights I hang pictures from, which I change my display now and again. These have never come down since I put them up last October. I am really impressed.
The photo below shows a wall decoration hanging on a Command Wire Hook. This has been hanging on my wall since last October too. I have another wall decoration like this one with different words, hanging up on a Wire Hook.
I have also used these Wire Hooks in the past on the inside of a cupboard to hang a plastic basket on that I filled with cleaning cloths. It never came off, until I took it off.
The photo below shows my calendar hanging off a Command Large Sticky Hook. I have this inside a kitchen cupboard.
I first used these sticky hooks some years ago for hanging a single curtain panel on my PVC kitchen door, so I had privacy at night. These were when I first started using the Command product, once I heard about them. I was rather sceptic at the time, wondering if my lined curtain would stay up on my door. But it never came down and I would open this curtain up and tie it back in the day, using another sticky hooks to put the tie back on. This only came down when I took it down on the day I moved out of my house, into the flat I currently lived.
So from being impressed with the job that served me is why I use these other two products of theirs, in their range.
I totally recommend these ones I have used in the Command range. They are very ideal if you rent privately, because of finding where your tenancy agreement does not want you damaging their walls, or doors.
The only ones I have used in the Command range that I wasn’t impressed with, were the Command Waterproof Sticky Hooks. I found these would not stay up and I tried them in a couple of places in the bathroom to hang my bath towel on. But I still found they came off. Hence I now use my coat stand, as a towel stand. But I wouldn’t change that in any other way now while living here, knowing how well it looks in there. But when I move one day, I won’t try those waterproof sticky hooks for the bathroom again and instead just stick with what I currently do, or a towel rail instead.
There are other products in their range for hanging things, which I have not tried, or don’t need. But what I mention here, I will always use.
This post has been written by me and I have not been asked to write this review from the makers. I have been meaning to write a post for a while about these products I use out of their range, due to me being happy with those. My opinions are my own.
So Saturday morning was sorting through my mum’s paperwork and filing it, so it was in order in its own sections and not bundled over several drawers all mixed up, as mum had it before. I brought most of the paperwork to mine and I sat on the floor sorting it, with plenty mugs of tea. I spent a couple of hours sifting through it all.
I then went on to start cleaning my oven, giving it a good clean. Since moving in, it was only now I decided to do it, after putting it off. The reason I put off for so long doing this was because of knowing the oven was already greased up when I moved in. So it wasn’t my mess I was cleaning up, it was the tenant prior. Unfortunately, I never looked in oven at sign up, so when I did discover it, I did not bother reporting it, because it would be hard to prove. It’s not 100% removed, but it’s much better than it was and gleaming inside. My hands, fingers and wrists feel like they have been overworked in a gym. I spent a good couple of hours on the oven, trying to bring it up better.
Then later, after giving my hands a bit of time to recover, I cleaned the shelving from the oven in the sink
I sold my dehumidifier. I am so happy about that. I may have lost some money by selling it in the short time I had it, but little amount of money was better than no money and no plans of using it anymore. It’s benefiting another family on limited income, as they start out in a place together.
I watched a couple of dvd’s in the evening, before going to bed, with further mugs of tea and a hot chocolate.
Today, all being well, I shall be meeting up with a friend and going out to a pub for a meal. I am hoping after our meal, that it’s not too bad to sit outside in the pub garden for a bit.
When I am back home, I will probably watch a dvd, or two.
How’s your weekend?
Depending on your circumstances, you may feel a burden to others. This could be because of a mental health, or physical health issue.
But you are not a burden.
My mum doesn’t want to be a burden. She had expressed this to me and staff members. But hopefully, by listening to me and the staff members on the ward where she is, that my mum realises that she won’t be.
From what mum told me recently, a staff member that had spoken to her, to put a long conversation short, she said, “… Mum was there for me and now it was time for me to be there for her…”
I said to mum, “By being with me, I won’t worry as much as I would have, if you were still living on your own.
I need you close to know you are ok. To support you when required, while you continue to be as independent as possible.
I want you to feel safe.”
I have had a couple say that it’s a big then by getting my mum to live with me. I am in no way offended by that comment. But when I was told by A&E staff that my mum was very unwell and to be prepared I could lose her, this decision of me and mum to live together was not a hard decision to make. In fact I did not need to think about it.
If my mum one day has to go back to her bungalow, before the time comes to us living together, I will be feeling very uneasy. I will be scared that my mum could do it again.
Mum has promised she won’t take an overdose again, because she knows how much it has hurt me. My mum can see how much it has hurt me. But the mental health team, like me, as they talk to her, need to know that when it gets difficult again, that she doesn’t try it again. There will be more talking by the different mental health team members in some way, while her medication is adjusted. The mental health team can see my mum will be better with me, then on her own. Mum has admitted that going back to her bungalow, she is not thrilled on, even though one point my mum wasn’t thrilled about staying in, after admitting her overdose.
When a family member wants to help some way, or for you to live with them for what ever reason. You are not a burden.
You may be reading this and in a position yourself where a family member has asked you to live with them and you are thinking you don’t want to be a burden to them. I would like to say that you would not be a burden, because you will be a much-loved family member. To them, you gave them support. You were there in their time of difficulties. You gave them joy and so all they want is to support you and help you in what ever way.
You are not a burden.