Book review: “Reasons To Stay Alive,” by Matt Haig.

This is a true story how author, Matt Haig came through his mental illness that almost destroyed him and he learnt to live again.

This book I believe, would be a good book to raising awareness of mental illness. He tells it as it was, for him, which many will relate to.
For something that was such a dark time for him, before he learnt to live again, the book is moving, funny and joyous, that will keep the reader engaged.

When I picked up this book to read, I learnt the author lived in Nottinghamshire. (I don’t know him.) He now lives in Brighton and he is the best-selling author of five novels, including “The Humans,” “The Radleys” and “The Last Family in England.” Matt Haig has also written some award-winning children’s books.

If you want to find out more about Matt Haig and his books, then visit


Book review: “Heartfelt,” by Pippa Middleton

“Heartfelt,” by Pippa Middleton is a book that Pippa Middleton worked alongside a team of experts to produce this book. All the proceeds from the book go to British Heart Foundation.
This book came out 2 years ago and I have had my own copy for about just over a year when I spotted this book for sale in The British Heart Foundation shop.You can still get this book here:, which will take you the The British Heart Foundation. The hardback book has over 100 delicious recipes and there is healthy eating advice.

Contents of book:

  • A Heartfelt hello
  • The foundation of a healthy heart
  • I Heart Breakfast
  • I Heart on-the-go
  • I Heart family
  • I heart date night
  • I heart hosting

Some recipes that are in this book:

  • Oaty drop scones with cranberries
  • Quinoa porridge with blueberry compote
  • Seeded soda bread
  • Spicy tomato and spinach baked eggs
  • Beef and lentil cottage pie
  • Terragon chicken goujons
  • Lemon, red onion and fennel cod traybake
  • Banana, blueberry and oat muffins
  • Steamed date puddings
  • Rhubarb and custard semi freddo
  • Berry roulade

Blog post re-share: Stop saying “Committed Suicide.”

I have to say that I have used the word one time, when talking about this subject, “Committed Suicide.” But I basically had said what I had read, when talking about it once, to someone.
I wanted to share this post that talks about why we should be careful with our words and not say “Committed Suicide,” but instead say, “died by suicide.” After reading this post, you will understand why it is appropriate  to say “died by suicide.”

Please read:

Should I look into buying, instead of renting?

One of my friends for years has said, that I should look into buying, because the mortgage she has paid over the years is much cheaper than I have been paying in rent. This friend has only about 6 years of her mortgage left and after mentioning it again, when I was chatting about places I had enquired renting wise, that were much cheaper to rent than where I currently live, to her, I am starting to wonder whether this should be the route I should start to look at.

After looking today at a few private properties for sale, the mortgage is hell of a lot cheaper than I pay. From using the mortgage calculators, it seems I could get a mortgage. But could I? I have thought about this option now more so, because I do not get help with my council tax and housing benefit is so low, I don’t even count this has part of my income, because I cannot rely on it. Last month housing benefit was under a fiver.
The reason why my housing and council tax benefits are affected, regardless that I work part-time, is because of my savings. So when I do overtime, the help gets lesser. I use just my income to get by and as you know, I am determined I won’t touch my savings, because if I still choose to rent privately, I still need my savings to get into that new private rented place, with me being only part-time work. I am still looking at getting another part-time job, which no doubt by then, all benefits will stop, if not before. The benefits won’t worry me of course when that happens, because it just means I can put even more into my ISA, without answering to them.

So with the savings I have, would I be wise sticking it out and try and get this second part-time job, then once this happens, look into buying? That way, I won’t have depleted my savings from moving to another private property, when I could save this for a deposit on a house.
Buying my own place has always been my dream and I would choose house any day over a car. Should I get a second job, being closer to buying my own place would feel more closer to happening, than just a dream, because of knowing what I could save.

How I feel

Because of my recent posts where I have possibly been vague and short to the point, which is not my usual writing style, due to watching what I actually say, I know I will have a few concerned readers. I thank you for your concerns, but I will be ok, just a few emotions have been stirred up and I am using what helps to ease my anxiety, like walks out, or colouring. I am just watchful what I say about all this now, as I do want to protect my family. So I have been thinking about how I could write to reassure you, while avoiding details about the court case to come. So this is that post.

It’s been a long wait as you know, for this to come. I have never been angry about the person who killed my two beloved family members, but I do want to see justice served.
Having anger will hurt yourself more in the long run, than anyone else and my mum is experiencing this anger, since the day we learnt of their deaths.
I was distraught when I found out about their deaths, the day after it happened via the online, local newspaper and I will never forget that day I found out this way. It felt like I was in a nightmare and at times it still does, knowing I won’t see them again.
Emotions are now stirred again; feeling tearful and anxiety.

I want to attend this court hearing, to see the person who killed them. I want to see his face and watch him, to see if he looks and feels remorseful.
He is a very young man, who only passed his test three weeks prior to that fatal day.
I hope that by being in court, I will get further answers to that day, but I know it won’t be nice hearing and I shall spare those details here. But the paramedic who was first on scene, it affected him. That is how bad this accident was and this is why I want justice served.
I already know how hurt my cousin was and it shocked me to the core. I felt the colour drain from my face, as I heard this from a friend, which I think was about a week or so later, after the accident. She stopped mid way as she was just going to say how my cousin’s husband was hurt. I don’t think she realised what she was doing and my face probably said it all, hence I did not hear the rest. So I guess I will and I am prepared the best I can be, should I hear this in court. Or can you ever prepare yourself for something like this?

I know my mum is interested in attending court. But she does not know these awful details, other than it was bad and so I don’t want her to attend, because I would be concerned how it would affect her. Mum does not use any coping strategies, as you know and her mental health can be much worser than mine, given her past history. But how she is now, the last few years, even more so, I would feel uncomfortable about her attending, which would spark my anxiety more. So I hope she will stay at home and say no more about it.

Three families are affected since that fatal day; Us, who lost two family members at the same time. The family on my cousin’s husband side, as well as knowing my cousin too. So double-effect for them too, like us. And the family that are related to this young man who killed them.
Our lives will never be the same again.

The speed limit needs to be 30 mph

My cousin and her husband were hit on a road not far from where they lived. A road where a speed limit needs to be brought way down and the local people have campaigned for this speed limit to be brought down, for years. They are still currently campaigning, with petitions already long ago sent in, after their deaths. They would like to see it 30 mph all the way through and I totally agree with them, along with other measures they are after.
I hope the people who receive these petitions and the campaign from these locals finally listen to them and change the speed limit. That road is awful and when you are on a pavement and a car goes speeding by, you are still at risk, because you feel the drag of that car passing you by, pulling you into the road. I know, I have walked this road many times from my teens, to an adult and I have had some scary experiences.
If the people who receive these petitions and campaign still don’t listen and act, then this is where I will be angry. Their deaths should not have happened and I, like the locals there, do not want to see anymore killed on that road.


Thank you once again, for your concerns and support. x

Post re-share: Empathy in the work place

This was a post I was originally going to schedule for today, but I posted last night. I am doing a post re-share, because of how my posting may not have been seen by all, that follow via their reader, due to scheduling wrong. It may have appeared on the reader at an earlier time and not as it aired when I changed the timing back to evening time.

Post: Empathy in the work place.

Due to recent difficulties, as this post mentions, I discovered my work place has empathy.

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