Blog post re-share: Day 2. British Airways i360 and Brighton Pavilion — Love Travelling

I love Brighton and miss being back here.
I wanted to re-share this blog post by Little Miss Traveller, at Love Travelling, as she has been round parts of Brighton I have seen. The only exception is, I have not been on the i360 yet, but it was advertised to show what they were building soon. But as much as I have a fear of heights, for those that knew me from my deaf blogging days, will know that going on this was one of my plans.

Do enjoy reading Miss Little Traveller’s blog post on sights around Brighton and I hope you admire Brighton as much as I do.

After waking early we caught the Coastliner 700 bus service into the centre of Brighton. Before leaving home our original plan had been to travel into Brighton by train but on noticing these buses passing along Worthing’s seafront at ten minute intervals we opted for the Coastliner instead. Despite the journey time by road taking […]

via Day 2. British Airways i360 and Brighton Pavilion — Love Travelling

Blog post re-share: “43 Self-Care Practices for the Highly Sensitive Person,” Renee Shuman

A blog post I came across today and thought I would share: “43 self-care practices for the highly sensitive person,” you will find over at “Will Folic For Food.” Click on link below, to take you to the post. It’s a couple of years old this post, but I still feel it’s useful.

https://www.willfrolicforfood.com/blog/2017/04/43-self-care-practices-for-the-highly-sensitive-person.html?format=amp

What I use to help me as a deaf person

6th to the 12th May 2019 is Deaf Awareness Week.

Today’s post is about the equipment I use to help me as a deaf person:

My Phonak SP hearing aids

Hearing aids will never give back my normal hearing, but they do assist. I would be worser off without my hearing aids, than hearing with them.
I still rely on lipreading, even though I am wearing them. So I do need to see your face clearly. No covering of your mouth as you talk, otherwise I will have to politely request you to move your hand away and for you to repeat what you just said. I shared a link here, about Communication Tips.

Flashing doorbell

My flashing doorbell is loud, but I have it set so it flashes too. (Pictured above.) It is portable, so when I used to live in a house, I would take it to every room in the house. Including my bedroom.
Now I live in a flat, it stays in one room, which is the living room mainly. But if I was in the kitchen for a while and the washer is on, then I would take it with me, to be sure I won’t miss anyone at the door. But I don’t take it to the bedroom now, as so my sleep is not disturbed.

Vibrating clock

My bedside clock (as pictured above) can be set with a loud ring, vibration, or a combination of the two. I just set mine on vibrating as so I don’t disturb neighbours with the decibels of this clock.
The vibrating bad goes under my pillow and you definitely won’t sleep in with this one. The vibrating clock I have is a Sonic Bomb, by Sonic Alert alarm clock.

If it’s not changed in my area, you could get a bedside vibrating clock from Social Services. But I am happy to continue buying my own clock.

Fire alert (pictured above)

I have to admit that since moving in my flat, I do not have this set up and I don’t plan to now, until in my new flat. I know this puts me at a huge risk, because I do not hear fire alarms, with, or without hearing aids. This is a risk I am taking, I know.
My fire alert is a Silent Alert SignWave Portable Receiver, which came with my smoke alarms. It’s a wireless signal and in the day my alerter is easily portable.
Should there ever be a fire in the day it would make a noise, as well as flash and the fire icon would flash to show it is a fire for the reason it is going off.
At night, it goes on a charger and I have a vibrating pad connected to this which would go under my mattress.
If it was to go off at night, it would flash and ring out as in the day, but also the pad would vibrate too. The vibrating pad is strong. Even under the mattress.

This same alerter can be connected to other things, but being an old unit, you can’t seem to get other things available widely.
One time, years ago when I had a landline phone, I had an attachment that was connected to my phone line and if the phone rang, my unit would alert me, by flashing and making a noise. Before even looking at the unit to see the phone display flashing, you would know, because the alert would be a different tone, of an old fashioned phone ringing.
I had this unit arranged by the Social Services, who contacted the department in the fire services to provide fire alarms and alerter. Social Services provided the device for my phone line and one time a door push, so it was a doorbell too. But the doorpush wasn’t great and so this is why I have my own set up.

Vibrating travel clock

When on holiday, I take my Sonic Alert vibrating travel clock with me, as pictured above. It can be set to alert, or vibrate, or combination of both. I don’t hear the ring, so I only use the vibrating option. The display folds down flat and it goes inside my pillowcase.
This is a very good vibrating clock, so there is no lying in with this one.
There is a light on this clock, if you require to see the time in the dark, but I always have my mobile phone near for that part.

As well as these, I use email like anyone else, the difference for me is, that this is my preferred communication over a phone, as I cannot understand well over the phone for a conversation. Not even my mum.

I also like to text and is equally my preferred communication, as email is.

When text, or email is not available to me, then face-to-face is another way to communicate with me. With the hearing I have left and the hearing aids I wear, I also lipread and I do use fingerspelling letters of the alphabet.
I did a post on Communication Tips earlier this week, that gives tips to help people like me, hear you. These tips work very well with me, so do refer back to that, so you can help keep someone like me involved in conversations.

That’s my last post as part of Deaf Awareness Week and this year. As it is the first time I have gave you more insight into my life and as part of Deaf Awareness Week, I hope you have learnt more about me and the topics in general, that I shared this week.

Blog post re-share: I urge our Ministers and the leaders of this World to be heroes. — An Appeal For Change

Please do read this post and the rest on his blog.
This is Matthew Harris, the man reminding us of this petition he is sharing and that I have been sharing, after signing it too. It’s time unpaid carers are recognised, as well as other things in this latest post I totally agree on. Do take the time to read his blog and find out more about him and why he is doing this.

Thank you.

Who am I? I’m a nobody. If it wasn’t for friends and family I would just be a statistic. Starved out by the system that I also have paid into. I’m just an every man. No one exceptional. Just a nobody who looked after my mum to the best of my ability. A nobody who […]

via I urge our Ministers and the leaders of this World to be heroes. — An Appeal For Change

It’s not all rainbows and fairies. But it’s what you make of it.

This is something I feel I need to get off my chest and, as I have a majority of supporting and understanding bloggers, because you have been there yourself, I know you will understand. But it doesn’t mean this post came easy, because I have wanted to write this for a month, but held myself back. But now my red mist has visited me a couple of times and my past couple of posts reflecting this partly. I will let it out. Or as I say, ‘rip.’

Ever since I found my mum that day after her OD, my stress levels have not come completely down, because I have and still worried about my mum. And this red mist that has shown out of the blue, in the comfort of my own home, away from prying eyes and recently only showing it partly on my blog, I have been trying until I can’t contain it no longer. All because I did not want to show this unhappy side of me. I feel because I have shown the red mist because of making it all happy and smiley and saying I’m fine, when I have not always been, giving that fake smile, now shameful because I shown the red mist here.

It’s not all smilies, rainbows and fairies. No one can be 100% happy under life stresses. I have done well finding positives out of my life stresses, which I will try and remember everyone of those these past few months here I made, at the end of the post list them.

I have felt partly pressured here to keep it all happy until I couldn’t any longer and I feel I may be judged by one, or two, who are not me and can’t be 100% fucking happy.

I am trying my best and my best is good enough and at a point I really share my feelings now, because I cannot keep quiet any longer, I will also let this shame go with that I have been carrying and not allow anyone to shame me either!

I think I have done well this year considering what has happened and the pressures I am still under

Regardless I am showing this, I won’t be shamed by anyone, because underneath, I have still found positives to my negatives. I just did not find these instant, because the red mist paid a visit. But I found these positive alternatives 10 minutes, give, or take, after!

Also, this year, since that day with my mum, I have been very forgetful. I have been frustrated with this, but also bloody dizzy at times trying to get my head together, remembering.

So this year, the positives I can remember I found from the negatives:

  • My mum being alive
  • Mum’s situation bringing us together, to where one day be living together.
  • From mum choosing to live with me has now gave me an increased chance of being in a council property, than I would have had on my own.
  • For mum’s situation to move us further up than before, on the banding list.
  • Instagram may have disabled my account but I thought fuck em. I have now created a visual folder on my phone to look at when needed.
  • My to do lists are very important in my daily life, now I am forgetful as I am. It works in addition to my diary as it’s more a visual thing.
  • I have created a “vitality wheel” for myself. It’s a new visual self-care thing for me. I will talk about this later.
  • Walking is my go thing. I may never have got round to running, but walking has never failed. It helps me to feel good.
  • Certain scents I am using for comfort in these last couple of months, to keep my mood positive.

 

British Sign Language

6th to the 12th May 2019 is Deaf Awareness Week.

Yesterday, I talked about Communication Tips. Today, it’s about British Sign Language. I am no expert at this, so I share a link below that will take you to a page on Action on Hearing Loss and where you can learn more about it there.

Learn more about British Sign Language, at Action on Hearing Loss.

What I can share though is misconception that people assume I use sign language because I am deaf. I don’t. I have tried to learn it, but because there was no one to practice with, meant I could not keep it up and remember. Even some small parts I remembered well are now slipping, because it’s not used.

What I do remember though, is fingerspelling the alphabet. I learnt this before I became deaf. No one uses it around me though, including my mum. But if they did, by fingerspelling the first letter of that word I am struggling with, while repeating the word, it would help me.

A note regarding leaving comments on my blog, or emails.

Thankfully, it doesn’t happen very often, but I would like to remind readers and commenters, that when you come across my blog in what ever way you discover me, please be courteous.

Being polite is the obvious one here, to me and other readers that leave comments on my blog posts. Thankfully, I have had nothing but polite.

But what I am getting, is comments on the lines of “please read my blog.”  I have found these comments in my spam and this blog I follow already. The commenter just leaves this comment and it’s happened several times, even before I chose to follow. Had it not been in spam, I would have made it spam. This is dam right rude and if you only leave this kind of comment on people’s blogs like mine, then you will find it doesn’t go down very well with bloggers. It’s spam and it’s not polite. Please be courteous and leave appropriate comments to my blog posts, or don’t leave one at all and like wise when you discover other blogs you like.

Make an effort to mingle with other other bloggers at their blogs as well as mine, making a conversion. That is the way you are likely to build your followers. But by just doing the above over and over, won’t get you anywhere, other than losing me as a follower, on what seems like a good blog and that type of comment won’t get aired.

And those that email me for requests to write a guest post on mine and some keep pestering reminding me I haven’t got back. If you observe and read my blog policy page, I don’t accept guest posts anymore and have not done for some time. It’s made very clear on my blog that I ignore these requests and same goes for requests to add links to my blog. This is made very clear too.

Rant over! Was there anything you did not get?

And yes, comment closed on this post, as not to encourage spammers.