Chit-chat September – Part 1

As I started creating this post before airing, it started short and now it’s got longer. I was going to air it as one, but now doing it over two posts, because there is something happening on what I was sharing and I won’t have an update yet, as this post airs. So see part 2 for that.

Over my two posts, it will contain mostly good things, as well as updates, but also a part regarding my mum, which is in this post. Not a heavy post written, but stressful for me obviously.
It also contains sweet things. I have been baking and there is a small bit of cuteness at the end. (I am imagining you, now the reader going, I wonder what that can be? and skipping to the end, before reading the rest. So don’t cheat now, will you? ūüėČ

So time for Part 1 and all being well, part 2 will air at the weekend.

Looking for flats

I shall start looking at council flats for me, near the end of this month. Being back at band 5 now will make it extremely difficult to get a council flat. But I will bid, because one day, I may be lucky. But until then, while I am renting private and even if I am lucky to be in a second cleaning job, I don’t plan to move within the next year, or the year after. I just don’t want any unnecessary stress, after the year I’ve had. Speaking of job, carry on reading and find out the latest on that.

While I continue to live where I am, I have put my large canvas picture of Miley back up on the wall. It’s now above the settee, so I could use what was already in the wall. (Well it was, until I moved the settee.) I have really missed having it up on my wall.
My peg lights I had there are down at the moment. They will go up again somewhere, when I have painted the the living room walls and ceiling.
A couple of my bedroom walls will be painted first, as this room is the room that looks tired still.

Job interview

Looking for a second job that I can do in a morning, since leaving that other one, has been quiet. There was either nothing being advertised, or I noticed it was jobs I have already applied for twice before and so I did not apply again for a third, because it makes you wonder what they are like as an employer, to have to keep advertising for another cleaner in just months. 
But eventually, something came up and I applied for a cleaning job of 15 hours per week.
This job was working Monday to Friday, preferably early morning, which was perfect for me.
I had an interview near beginning of September and I was very impressed with the company and so I hoped I would get the opportunity to work for them. I felt a good vibe about it too. The feeling was just like when I was interviewed for the evening job I do. 

I ended up getting this job and I started the next morning! And I still remain impressed with the company and I am enjoying it.

But now I am in morning work, means no regular volunteering. So I said bye bye again at the one I have done the longest and that I returned back to when I left my previous morning job. But I hope to at least see them once a month and depending on time I see them, maybe just help now and again for an hour, or so.
The conservation group one I not long joined, I let them know I wouldn’t be able to make regular monthly bird surveys. But anytime on annual leave from work and I am doing nothing, I will join in then, as well as when they advertise their litter picking.

I also had to see my mum face-to-face early September, as mum was still breaking a boundary when it came to texts. I did a meet-up because I had this feeling that mum wasn’t getting any texts off me when I reminded her of my boundary she was breaking. And I was right. So I sorted out her phone and we had a chat. This chat we both benefited on. But I still want this break, because there were still traits that are going to trigger me and mum said she would respect that, so I felt more confident that we would work things out.
But mum still ignored my boundary and so I really ended up being more assertive than I have ever been and said if she can’t respect this boundary, then I will make it no contact at all, until I am ready to contact her in November.
Mum’s nurse spoke to her about this and reminded her about the no contact until particular times and how I love her and she also praised me for looking after myself and that how I will contact her when ready, while she was reading the letter.
I am to contact mum’s nurse, should there be any problems, which I ended up doing, after still ignoring this one simple boundary. So now, I have done what I said I would do and that’s no contact at all until I am ready in November.

Going to Oxford

I am going to Oxford soon, to see my friend again. I’m looking forward to being there. It will be nice to have spending money on me this time.

I have baked the following, since last chit-chat post:

Lemon and orange marmalade cake with drizzled white icing
Lemon and orange marmalade cake

I don’t like marmalade, but I was open-minded and made the above cake, to see if I would like it. And I did.

As for my banana cake, not pictured, I absolutely loved it. It was the first time me making this and I added cinnamon to mine. It’s¬†one I have made again since, but minus the demera sugar on the top.
I can see why most people like banana cake.

I have been watching:

  • Norman Wisdom’s films I have in a DVD box set
  • Some Mothers Do ‘Ave’ Em
  • Fantastic Beasts The Crimes of Grindlewald

I have been re-watching some of my other dvd’s as well, as well as some other bought second-hand dvd’s. My dvd’s remain as one of my escapes.

I have been reading:

  • “No Surrender – Women’s Suffrage in Nottinghamshire.” This was compiled by Nottingham Women’s History Group.

I have re-arranged some of my furniture in the living room. Only my dining table has stayed where it always has, since living here. I have been debating on doing this for a while now and I like it. It feels even more cosy. I don’t plan to share a photo of my new layout, but if you look up an old post, just imagine it.
My settee is now facing the window, so I can look out at my lovely view.
My bookcase that has things on display of my last cat, Miley, is to the left of me when sitting on my settee. Books reaching distance, while sat down.
Coffee table is in front of me.
My lamp I had in the corner originally, is on my bookcase. So not moved far.

I don’t use my computer table now for my computer. The computer is now in the corner where my lamp used to be, on top of the filing cabinet. I stand to type, which is not regular I use my computer this way, as I watch dvd’s more on it. But it’s the right height to stand at, should I need to.
My 3-tier shelving is still on the same side as before. I have just moved it up towards near the door, where bookcase was originally.
Computer table has been lowered, so it’s one level. So now it’s a small table. And what I am now using this for, is for my lovely cuteness.

The cuteness

You are going to have to wait for part 2.

I know. I know. That was so cruel. But what I was going to write and what further I may end up writing about the cuteness, would have made the post very long. This was the part I mentioned near the beginning that something has come up and although I have the answers myself possibly, I just want them confirmed.

So do look out for part 2, where the cuteness can be talked about longer. For the very small few who know about the cuteness, or have an idea, please don’t reveal here. Lets not spoil the fun. ūüôā

 

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Chit-chat August

Blood pressure

I was concerned with this at home, while taking my readings for my doctor, after the last visit and so rather hand my readings in, I made an appointment instead, because they were higher than normal for home.
What I didn’t know doctors do with those readings is work out your average from that and he told me from that average what he would like to see go lower. This was the bottom number.

I seen a different doctor, as the other one I have seen mainly, did not work on that particular day I called in. He was a doctor who soon put you at ease and was aware before I started to speak, that I lipread.

I now have a couple of other appointments.
First one is ECG and blood taken. I am not worried about this, as been there before some years ago.
Then at the second appointment I see the doctor who I seen last, for results of my ECG and blood test. I also take a urine sample that day to him.

Between my last appointment and when I see the doctor again, in September, I am to continue taking my blood pressure readings, but this time, just two, or three times a week; morning and evening.

My break from work, helped me to feel more like me, than I have ever felt for a while this year. It helped my fatigue that I had been having for some time, although I still have odd times of bad bouts of fatigue. Does this mean I have to listen to my body more?
I crashed as I expected on the weekend leading up to my break from work. But my recovery was quicker than expected. Regardless, I still took it easy.
My mood during that time was stressful to start, but I got myself to relax after a few days. But I had and still do, have some down days with how things have been.

I plan to go back to work, tomorrow.

During this time, I felt I had to cut ties with my mum, so the next time seeing her from last, was just over a week. Seeing her for the first time yesterday, after my break, went ok and I ended up staying a little longer than planned.
I have a letter written by my mum, for me, to read when I feel settled. This obviously is not something I will go into detail, in a later post when I have. Not even a protected post. I said to mum this could be end of September before I read this, at the earliest. I am waiting until appointments are out the way and I know what’s what. But all the same, the letter fills me with dread, because I have mostly had bad experiences when it comes to her letters.

Learning something new, was when I learnt how to blanch. This was needed for my Tomato and broccoli quiche (dairy-free).

As well as making the quiche, I also made some strawberry chia jam tarts, from the left over pastry, with me having the strawberries and chia seeds to hand.

Chia strawberry jam tarts
Chia strawberry jam tarts

I also made some petticoat tails. The recipe for those you will find in an old “McDougalls better baking 33rd edition” book.

Here are just some of mine made, on a plate.

A few of my biscuits on the plate
Petticoat tails

It’s been a good number of years since I last made these biscuits and when I made them again today, I put less caster sugar in them, than the recipe says, because I find them too sweet otherwise.

From the same book, I made cheese scones. Again, adapting so it’s dairy free. I made these yesterday. ūüėä

I have read a book called, “Keeping Secrets,” by Andrew Rosenheim. A fictional story.

DVD’s watched:

  • Fantastic Beasts and Where to find them
  • The Phantom of the Opera (film, staring Gerald Butler.)
  • (Re-watched) As good as it gets
  • (Re-watched) The Phantom of the Opera at The Royal Albert Hall
  • (Re-watched) Man of Steel
  • (Re-watched) Sum of all Fears

 

 

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Chit-chat catch up

So I have done everything I need to do that was needed with my blog and I am back to posting earlier than expected. So it did not take as long as expected.

I would like to thank all my readers for their support and hello to new followers that have joined, for the short time I was away.

Everything is still going fine with my electric and gas supplier. They use meter readings every time compared to the previous. So whenever I move home, I shall take them with me. (Unless I find them there already.)

My previous supplier who I left some months back, surprisingly sent me a cheque for credit I was in, as well as compensation. I was very surprised to see for a rip-off company and so I wasn’t expecting a penny. I would still not recommend them and I will avoid.

Me and my mum won’t be living together. I have now removed her off the council list. I won’t go into too much detail, otherwise it would make this post a protected post. But I am going my own way and mum can go hers, should she choose to take it. My mum’s nurse will advise and guide her should she choose to and if she does choose to, it means she can still move to Mansfield.

In the meantime, because of the situation and my health, which is now high blood pressure, (and I still have asthma issues,) I refuse to do those unexpected stop overs sleeping on the floor at night in a sleeping bag. Mum will have to use that 24 hour phone number she has, should she need it.

Work has been very supportive, as they always are, in these difficult recent times and I took their offer to have a week off work this week, so I could rest.

I will continue to live where I currently live, as I can’t afford to move in another private property, unless I am in a second job. But I shall hold out anyway, to see what happens with bids I make on any council properties.

I will walk away from arguments

As I have said in the past to my mum and now I am actually having to do it to my own mum, is that I won’t continue talking in a heated conservation. I will walk away.
Heated conversations don’t get you anywhere and don’t do anymore any good. I will and I have done, will walk away.

I have gone back to my old volunteer place, with not yet securing a cleaning job in the morning. They were happy to see me back. I do the same day and hours, each week as before.

My other volunteer role in my local area, I go bird watching this week. This is my second time with my local conservation group, since joining this year.

I decluttered. Yes. I managed to fill a carrier bag full of things, ready to donate to charity.

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This has been one good storage box

This storage box I have had since my teens and it is still perfect, since the day I owned it. (I am 43 now.)
My mum bought me this, so I could store my art materials; pencils, felt pens and paints and whatever else then, I can’t remember.

Later, for a few years, all my nail varnishes, dotting tools, nail stickers etc… were in here, to make it easier to take to class when I did a nail art course.

Now, as in photos above, I have changed it back to my art box. I have my watercolour paints, acrylic paints, jars, paint brushes, mixing tray and dotting tools in this box.
I moved my nail varnish stuff into a clear box.

Do you have something, that you have owned for a very long time?

 

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