So near beginning of the year, I slept in my new single bed after purchasing back in December. It’s a nice shiny chrome bed, with diamanets on the top of the curved headboard end of the bed. The bed frame is heavy. I’ve never had a bed frame before, that has felt weighty like this one.
I went down to a single bed from a small double, after nothing but thinking of doing this for sometime. I am sick of changing the double duvet cover too and the last 3 to 4 months, I noticed was sleeping just on one side of my small double bed.
My first nights sleep was the best ever for a long time. I knew I was ready for a new mattress when it came to my old bed. But it’s took sleeping in my new bed to realise how refreshed I was in my body; minus some aches and pains I remember having. So I needed it more than I realised.
So I last talked about my hamster, Daz, sharing a photo for the first time in Chit-chat September – Part 2.
Getting round to talking more about him, I have left it later than planned. But here I am mentioning him now. In this post, I share another photo of him, with a little bit of an update.
In the time I have had Daz, his confidence has grown, but there is a limit to how far he accepts contact. He will accept food from my hand and he has known to eat that food, while still staying next to my hand. But he is not a hamster that wants to be held. So when cleaning the cage and needing to transfer him out of that cage, he is transferred by using a cardboard container still. Just encouraging him to step inside that container, then cover the end with my hand, until I have him in his little pet carrier, keeps his stress and upset to the bare minimum. He’s really good with this.
At times when in his cage, I will see him checking me out.
He also comes up to the bars of the cage, when I am up close.
I know he expects treats, but they are kept to only once, or twice a week at the most, so when he has his daily food, I offer a couple of those from his dish as a way to keep that contact. He knows when his dinner is due. At times he can be seen waiting. Sometimes I am a little teaser and make him wait a little bit more, just so I can see him for a bit. When I do that, you can see him smelling the air for his food and he will check out his bowl, just to see if it’s there. Then he comes back to the cage door, looking at me. Once he has his food, he’s gone to his bed with it and is out of sight.
He is a hamster who likes to keep mostly to himself. I am lucky if I see him and able to interact with him before I go to bed. But he is happy and that’s the main thing.
Last November, my counselling started, as I mentioned in Chit-chat. My counselling I have fortnightly. I have had four sessions so far by, the time we were towards the end of the second week in January and my counsellor asked for an extension and I have two more sessions, through my EAP (Employee Assistance Programme.) After this, I will continue privately with her, while I still feel I need it. Through filling in the paper how I had felt for the last two weeks and comparing to before, I have come on a lot further for the better.
I changed my mobile phone tariff
Last December, I went on a new tarif that was cheaper than my previous, after watching how much less internet I use, for the last few months. It’s a small saving, but it’s better than nothing.
Lots of dvd’s
I have been watching lots of dvd’s as usual, which is my escape as you know through difficult times. I’m not going to list some of the dvd’s watched in this month’s post, but a neighbour below has been lending me lots of his too.
I’ve lost count, how many I have watched, which vary from action, comedy and some cartoons. Watching some disney type films has made a refreshing change.
I have to say, thankfully, since this post; It seems to be the year of attempted scamming by text, I have not had anything else.
I talked about community spirit some months back with where I live in this block of flats. I say hello to most neighbours. Join forces with three/four of them when need to be, when we have trouble with the usual flat, or what ever matter away from that. Thankfully, it’s not common as before where I need to join in with my own complaints and send them to the Neighbourhood Warden.
I still have that closer connection with my same two neighbours as when I talked about them in community spirit. I have helped when it came to one neighbour to use my phone when they had no money, so he could phone his sister. I don’t mind doing this and as I remind these neighbours, it’s all in my phone contract, so there is nothing extra for me to pay and the reason I won’t accept money off them. I am just happy to help too.
But because they insist on showing thanks, as I won’t accept money, I let them get something small like handsoap, or whatever they like to do, if they insist. But as long as they buy something very cheap and small, like handsoap, I will appreciate it. I don’t want them spending and being skint.
These two neighbours know the difficulties with my mum. But it wasn’t until last November I opened up how it affected me regarding feeling suicidal. Suicidal was the part I held back, until then.
I have offers of help from these two neighbours, to knock on their door when needed.
The neighbour who I let use my phone, has lent me a load of dvd’s over the last few months since, with knowing this is one of my means of escape. His wife when knowing how I was, also said knock on our door anytime.
For a certain scenario regarding my mum, should it happen and there is no Plan A, the neighbour below me has given me a Plan B.
Unfortunately though, I had to put a boundary in place with one of my neighbours. The one who is an alcoholic, as I have mentioned in an earlier post. So I won’t go into detail here again repeating then basically say this boundary protects me from anything further of it. I have grown up with it and I had a past friend who I felt was putting my job on the line through her alcohol issues and witnessing her getting too pissed. With other issues growing up and last years shit, I have had enough, which HAS lasted me a lifetime and I am having no more shit of that kind.
Booked my holidays off work
For day trips I plan to do a lot more of this year, I have put my holiday requests in at both jobs ready for those that fall on a working week. So all I need to do, is book the trips, once I know I have my holidays at work accepted.
Got my paint in
I got my white paint in ready for when I decorate.
My living room has already been done, as this post airs and I have rearranged my furniture after, to a new layout.
By changing the layout, it gave more floor space for my lounge bit a dining room bit. I wanted to create a bit more floorspace especially where my lounge bit is, so that when I move my coffee table out of the way, I will have floor space for my Tai Chi. So now time to get those Tai Chi dvd’s back on.
I have put away my living room curtains and put back up the curtains that were up when I first viewed my flat. I have no plans of changing these curtains at any point in the future. They will stay up, ready for when I move down the line.
As the curtains are ringlets, which personally I hate because my curtains, although not thick, they were heavy, were awkward to get off, let alone back on, with not much room between rod and ceiling. Curtains that came with flat, are lighter. Thankfully I like them.
I am a pencil pleat person, when it comes to curtains.
I only painted the walls and ceiling in the living room. I did not gloss.
I shall next paint my bedroom at some point, then paint my hallway, all in the same way.
The hallway is small, so painting the ceiling and walls should only take an hour, to an hour and a half at the most.
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