Setting myself a challenge

As I was reading this week in ‘Healthy’ magazine, you don’t need to be religious to give something up for lent. So for 40 days before Easter, I have decided I am going to set myself a challenge. I need a kick up the backside in the area I am focusing on and I think doing it around this time, is just what I need to get myself started.

My issue is that I have been eating a lot of sweet stuff, since from around last October I think, when I started doing it.

I have eaten sweets I normally would not touch, which is the sugar coated kind, regardless I find it too sweet and sickly.

Biscuits, I am eating more of than usual and the packs are not lasting like they normally would.
When it has come to eating the biscuits, I have ate more than I normally would in a sitting and I have ate them just for the sake of it.
I say to myself I won’t buy another pack so soon. But I do and they are gone before the week is out as well.

It’s obvious to me and my counsellor why I am doing this and I know I don’t need to explain it here, as most of you will know. (For new readers, just read some of last years posts of events that affected me.)

I need to sort this and only I can do it. I thought I had it under control. But I haven’t, because I am having a lot of moments eating sweet stuff unnecessarily. So I think doing the above I mention will be a good kick start for me.
Cutting back and eating like I used to before, rather than how it currently will benefit me obviously health-wise. But also the certain things my body experiences after excess sugar will help to reduce that too, which will not help anxiety.
Writing it here, I am sharing it with you and verbally putting it to show that this is what I am going to do for the 40 days before Easter.

So here is what I am not having for the 40 days before Easter:

  • No cake
  • No biscuits
  • No sugar-coated sweets, or any other sweets with exception of Jakemans sweets. But I will only have some of these if I come down with a cold, or sore throat.
  • No dairy-free chocolate (even though I hardly have it)
  • No apple pie, or equivalent.
  • No dairy-free ice-cream

So there it is. It’s not going to be easy, but I am aiming to do this.

 

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The long term is going to be hard. But I am hoping my short terms break things up.

As you know, I have long and short-term goals. If you are not aware of them, you can read them here: My Vision Board and Gratitude Wall.

My long term, which I am not likely to do in 2 years and more likely it will be done in 3 years, I struggle with, because I do not want to be living where I am for the next 3 years. But I remind myself, it’s not worth moving somewhere else to rent privately, when it can be put to my long-term goal. I will only move if I get a council place. But as I have mentioned before, that’s about the same chance as winning the lottery.
It also means I won’t be having a cat while living where I am.

When I am inside my flat, I try to ignore what is outside:

  • The neighbour opposite leaving their tied up (stinking at times) rubbish outside their door, rather than taking it to the main bin straight away.
  • The same neighbours at times noisy. (They effect two of my other neighbours more than me, with me luckily not living above or bow them. But I have heard them at times, when they shout outside, instead of talk.)
  • Seeing my first rat outside. (There is supposedly more than that.)
  • Overflowing bins shared by my block of flats and the flats next door. These are also abused, because certain people put things in they shouldn’t. Filling the bins up with their own junk, as if it’s just their bin, when we all have to use it, but no room because of one person filling practically a very large bin.
  • The stairwell in my block has rules, but those rules may as well be took down, because they are just broken and no one can do a dam thing about it, as I have recently learn when complaining about neighbour leaving rubbish opposite. So whats the point those rules being up?
  • The litter strewn in the garden.
  • Not getting involved with upstairs neighbour about neighbour downstairs and vice versa, because I am sick of when they bitch about the same thing about one another. They stand need, because they are as bad as one another. Both have trouble when it comes to alcohol. But I don’t think upstairs will talk about downstairs, after telling him straight he’s just as bad. After all, remember that time when I blogged here that he was pointing a gun at past neighbours that lived their opposite? He was under the influence.

My short-term goals this year:

  • are lots more day trips out and about, whether near, or far. I hope these and anything else make my year go by easier.
  • To keep looking at my visionboard, to help keep me focused on my difficult days.
  • Having some lunches out by myself, or with friends.
  • To vent if needed on my blog.
  • To blog in general on my blog.
  • Watching dvd’s.
  • Walks out.
  • Doing self-care things at home, like pampering my feet for example.
  • To see if I can one day sit and do one of my crafts. (Or more.)

So that’s my rant and reminders. 😊

 

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My feelings – Part 5

Since last post, My feelings – Part 4. I have felt :

  • Anger (But not as to the level I last experienced in my 20’s, that I had up to this month, from December.)
  • Anxiety
  • Tension

The tension I noticed was related to my anger.

The anxiety was brought on by a particular conversation via email, from my mum’s social worker.

I have had a couple of down days, but they have not been bad and an odd tired day. But My Vision Board and Gratitude Wall has helped me to keep going and stay focused.

 

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My Vision Board and Gratitude Wall

I still use my organiser as I shared in this post, Organiser and journal combined. But for 2020, I have created a Vision Board and Gratitude Wall, by buying a large whiteboard and getting things on there. Half the board is my Vision Board and the other half my Gratitude Wall.

My whiteboard which has my vision board and Gratitude on it

This will hang on my bedroom door, so I will see it morning and night, as well as any other time I am in my room. I have also added either a quote, or affirmation on my board since taking a photo of this.

The Vision Board has long term and short term goals.
The short term being my day trips I would like to go on that are near, or far, so I have something to look forward to this year.
The long term which I am basing on over the course of the next 2 to 3 years, is saving as much as I can. At the end of the 2 or 3 years, I want to see if I have saved the amount I would like to save to possibly help towards buying a house. Realistically though, it may be 3 years I more likely do it in. So if that’s the case, then another year extra I will aim for. But if I don’t manage to do this, or I choose not to continue down this route by that time, then I will look at moving privately in a 2 bed house.
Until then, I look at the houses online for sale and any that interest me, I walk to that street literally to view from the outside, so I see if my impressions change and also see if the area itself I would be happy to live in.
I have also looked at what is going for rent as well and done the same.
But if I am lucky to get a council flat in this time, that I bid on, then I will obviously take it.
The Gratitude Wall I expect to fill up, as the year progresses. I have already added further since I took a photo of this.

I hope by creating this board, that it helps to keep me motivated each day, feel a little hope and serve as a reminder of some things I plan to do, that I will be looking forward to, when things get difficult.

I hope to do this each year.

Do you use a vision board, or a gratitude board like this, or something similar?

Do you have any goals for this year?

 

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How do you stay motivated?

I know I’m not alone when it comes to staying motivated. It can be a real struggle, depending on my mood. Like anyone, when depression was bad, motivation was nil. But other times, it’s if I can be bothered, or whether I’m tired, or a little stressed. So if you are after advice from me on this, I don’t think I can offer it.

To stay motivated in the past, I have had to be really hard on myself. I may not allow myself something, until I have done whatever that may be. It’s also setting a routine to my day, allowing the breaks I need, while doing what’s important, like study for example.

As hard as it can be to get up some mornings, I find I have to make myself get up, because if I don’t, then it can spoil the rest of my day.

How do you stay motivated? Share your tips here, to help others.

Thank you in advance. 🙂

 

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I will always love the guitar, but I do not have the mindset to learn how to play, or the motivation.

I revealed here sometime back, how I have been learning and enjoying playing the acoustic guitar. Since a lesson where I could not wait to get out, I have gone from regular practising, to since then, only practising a couple of times since. The last few months now where I have not practised at all and so I have put it back in its own guitar bag, to keep the dust off.

 

 


I have now decided to sell my guitar because I just don’t have the right mindset, or motivation to play it. But I will always love the guitar and hearing the guitar. It saddens me that I have not been on it, but I know this won’t be enough to get back on it. I have put it on a back seat because of studies, which will go on a year or more. As well as this, I am learning a new hobby, which is crochet and I will probably learn a couple of more hobbies. I am loving the crochet and feel my brain has been exercised as I learn how to do the stitches.

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If I do decide to learn to drive, then this will be another distraction where I will always put the guitar on the back seat, so to speak. It will be nice knowing that hopefully soon, it will go to a good home, where someone will enjoy and appreciate it.

 

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Teaching Mum healthy eating

My Mum has had some bad eating habits for a while now, as well as myself, there has also been another friend that has given my Mum advice on healthy eating.
One bad habit of my Mum’s is having ready-made meals instead of cooking from fresh. Eating ready-made meals can have hidden salt and sugar you would not believe, unless you read the food labels.

Anyone can eat healthy

All it takes is motivation

Motivation is the hard one, but it can be achieved and when you see the results that you want, then motivation becomes even easier.

My Mum recently has discovered she is borderline diabetic. I have said to my Mum if she starts to look after herself and stick with it, she can reverse this.

If you live on your own like I do and my Mum, then sometimes cooking for one can un-motivate you. But you can change this feeling by cooking something new and experimenting with food.

Forget diets, as they restrict what you can eat and are only temporary. Instead, think long-term and reap the benefits.

Readers of this blog and my old one I used to write and family and friends will know I no longer take blood-pressure tablets through healthy eating. I am so proud of this result, because I never thought I would see that happen. As well as this, I no longer feel tired as I did and I have extra energy. I have also lost weight gradually too.

I write down a menu plan for the week ahead, before my current one runs out and shop for what I need for that week if needed. I have a whiteboard on my kitchen wall with Monday to Sunday on it which displays my weekly food menu. (My mid-morning and mid-afternoon snacks not included on this.) By having this whiteboard visible on the wall, I am able to see what I am eating that week and it helps to keep me motivated.

My weakness is sweets and so I am best not to buy this in advance and have in the home. If it is not there, then I cannot have it. But also if I have a craving, like chocolate for example, the chances of me going out to buy it, is nil. But had it been in the house already, then I would have been tucking in.

My Mum already has the tools to eat correctly, she just has to find the motivation to do it and the confidence to shop for the right things.
I feel my Mum is starting to listen after this result from her doctor and I have given her new advice, along with what I have mentioned before and I have sat down with her to prepare her first menu for the week ahead. There will be no doubt that I will support my Mum with any other advice she needs in the weeks, or months ahead, as she starts her healthy eating journey.

Further related reading:

 

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