Doodle and Mindfulness

I have bought four books recently, from Amazon. Two of them are doodling books and the other two are mindfulness books, although doodling books fall under mindfulness too. (My opinion.)

My doodle books.

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My mindfulness books.

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I am going to be in doodle heaven, but although they are not meant to be, I may find a challenge at times. But all good to get me inspired and my brain in a different mental gear.

The mindfulness books in the last photo will be a challenge too, as one gets me thinking and the other a motivation to try what is in the book. The book, “Start where you are,” from flicking through, will give me some self-awareness, maybe help with self-esteem, because of this book being a self-reflection type book.

The coming months ahead, as I dip in and out of these books will be interesting.

Child abuse, Complex PTSD & managing emotional flashbacks

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This blog post might be useful to anybody out there who suffers with Complex PTSD, who has suffered from childhood abuse or who has a loved one who suffers with a mental illness. I have created the below charts to assist those of you who might need a clearer map of how complex trauma affects individuals and why they might have moments of overreacting to criticism, an angry tone of voice or a stern look. Emotional flashbacks are explained and a list of coping skills are included, which I have used extensively throughout my own healing over the last 4 years. I find that boxes, colours and diagrams are very useful for me to remember things, especially because my own Complex PTSD affects my memory and cognitive function. Forgive me if there are any errors.

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Book review: “Mindfulness for everyday living,” by Christopher Titmuss.

This is a guide as the title says, mindfulness for everyday living. By focusing on the present, we can teach ourselves to appreciate what is going on around us. To become happier and calmer, without the constant anxiety caused by worrying about the past or the future. By practising the Buddhist art of mindfulness, we can experience life on a different level.
This book brings an introduction to the basic principles of mindfulness and the benefits it can bring. There are exercises to try throughout the book, that can be used in your daily life and helpful advice on dealing with emotional issues, arguments and relationships.

The first time you read this book I suggest you read it all, then go back to where you feel it is useful for you. It is certainly a book that you can refer back to, because mindfulness is something that has to be worked on. It is not something that you can easily pick up on in a week.
Now I have read the book throughout, I will certainly go back and read parts of it that are helpful for me.

Contents of this book:

  • Preface
  • Introduction
  • Mindfulness of Energy
  • Mindfulness of Activities
  • Mindfulness of Inner Life
  • Mindfulness of Five Precepts, Seven Ways for Inner Change
  • Mindfulness of Spiritual Experiences

For those that already have some experience of mindfulness in some way, you will be familiar with some of the things it talks about in the book, like relaxation breathing exercises. There is still something to learn though, from this book and I learnt a lot. It is a book that will remain on my bookshelf, to keep referring back to.

Don’t wait. Just do it!

If there is something I want to do, or to go somewhere, I do it.
I am happy to go alone, like going on holidays, day trips, or learning something new, for example. Although I have had the odd holiday with a friend and more recently a holiday with my mum, I am a person who enjoys going alone, because I just find it freeing.

Life it too short and I know this personally, through people I have known, or even closer; family members that are no longer here.

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My advice to people, that I have also taken on board myself for many years is, to go and do what you want to do. Don’t wait to do it with someone, instead just get out there and do it. It is a great feeling to take yourself to another place. There is no chance to be bored on holidays for example, if you plan ahead to the area you are visiting. Although sometimes, my confidence can get in the way, I am not long before I will do it and I have been reminded by a work friend who knows I can be a nervous traveller, that she admires me going on holidays alone, to new places, because she is not confident to walk around at a nearby town.
Many of my holidays have been on coaches and I find I am not always the only one who travels alone. Sometimes they might be on the seat next to me, on the coach and a conversation starts. This could also continue in the hotel, like having breakfast with them before departing your ways, to enjoy the day.

I learnt recently from a friend I have known for years and who goes on lots of trips and holidays that at one time she was fearful of doing it. She took the first step with the support of a centre she once attended and although scary for her, she enjoyed it. She knew she had to keep pushing herself after that and now she goes to places without thinking. I would have never thought at one time, she was once like this. It was lovely to hear her story.

I find when I travel alone, that it gives me confidence, improves my self-esteem, as well as the break I may need.

What ever your goal may be, just do it and enjoy. Wait for no one, because life is too short.
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So how will I go for it this year?

I plan to:

  • go on two weekend holidays, to somewhere I have not been to before.
  • continue with my home study lessons
  • continue with crochet
  • I plan to take driving lessons later in the year

What do you plan to do, for 2017?

Self-kindness went out of the window today

I have talked about being kind to ourselves in other people’s blog posts when the subject has come up and I think I mentioned it here somewhere too. I know I was being aware of not slipping backwards, which I revealed in this post. But today, my self-kindness has been going out the window in parts. I have called myself stupid a few times today, one of them I only remember for what it was for and it was minor. So I need to nip this in the bud. (I gave myself a good ticking off prior to writing this post. Did I need to tell myself off anymore? lol)

It has probably just been a long day for me, as I have been up since just before 6am for a delivery that could come anytime today. (This came this afternoon.) I was waiting for three  planters with trellis and I have a problem with one of them received, as it is damaged. So I have emailed about that. Surprisingly, I am not tired, because usually tiredness can make me snappy with myself.

How has your self-kindness been?

Self Soothing ; Coping with Anxiety and Depression

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.Self soothing and having a variety of coping methods for anxiety is an important part of surviving life in this world. Some children are guided to learn these things, while others are not. If you grew up with parents that were neglectful or abusive, then you most likely grew up with no self soothing skills. 

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Everyone has anxiety and stress to deal with, but some people end up with anxiety disorders that overpower their lives, and their ability to interact with others in stressful environments.

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If you never learned coping skills for anxiety growing up, then you can still find methods that will work for you. 

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If you suffer from depression and anxiety, then you need to be able to self sooth. You need to find special methods that work for you. Everyone is unique and not all coping skills work for all people.

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